It is not always easy to watch your child when they are unhappy. It doesn’t matter why the child is sad, could be the popping of a balloon or loss of a pet but the main point is to brighten their face again as soon as possible. That is what most parents target to do. But does the immediate relief of the emotional agility help the child in the long run?
Below are three practical procedures a parent, a guardian or even a teacher can practice.
Feel their pain as well
As a parent, you need to fit in her emotional world and that way, you will avoid just pushing away the feeling with mere words. Such expressions like, do not be sad, “you should not be as angry, or it will go away soon, means you don’t understand how the child feels.
Recognize their emotion without concealing
You should be able to differentiate between stressful situations and disappointment or anger in your child’s behavior. It will help you to empathize with the child’s feelings rather than using display rules like most parents do to try to push the negative emotions away. Display rules are expressions such as; boys don’t cry! Or you are a big girl now! You are just telling your child that being emotional is wrong. But in the real sense, you are wrong yourself.
Watch the feeling go.
Help your child to understand that the feeling won’t last forever and it’s okay to be emotionally affected by some life experiences. Tell them you encountered such situations and how you overcame them (it doesn’t have to be real encounter). By this, you will be helping your child to notice that there is no bigger sadness that cannot be dealt with and thus it will come to pass. Assist your child in this phase in such a way that they will be able to handle similar situations in a better way in future. Also, make them know that with a similar experience they might not feel the same way they felt in their previous encounter.
“How kids steer their emotional world is very crucial to lifetime success,” psychologist Susan David said. Thus it is very sensitive how you handle your emotionally troubled child. You can also in your life be anxious, agitated, frustrated or even excited about anything, thus the need to recognize such, in others.