In a touching open letter that was recently published by the Huffington Post, a New Jersey Woman described her feelings about being fatherless. She addressed her open letter to the father’s of teenaged daughters and gave advice about rearing girls and ensuring that they feel loved and supported. According to Noreena Lewis, the author of the open letter, a father’s role in a child’s life is extremely important, especially to girls. The author began the letter by describing her experience with her father as less than ideal. Lewis lived in the same household as her father, but described their relationship as emotionally strained. Lewis also revealed that her father had sadly passed away from colon and liver cancer years ago and that she had many regrets about their relationship with one another.
In her advise to the fathers of teenaged daughters, Lewis stated that fathers should work hard to maintain their relationship with their daughters when they begin to look like women. Lewis referred to the fact that many fathers have described a feeling of awkwardness in their feelings toward their daughters when they began to go through puberty. Lewis explained that although young girls are experiencing physical changes, they are still in desperate need of their father’s love and affection. Lewis stated that is a huge mistake for fathers to distance themselves from their daughters when they aren’t little girls anymore. Lewis also suggested that fathers with developing daughter complete research about parenting teenaged girls. She empathized by stating that fathers did not receive a parenting guide when they had their daughters and that they should find no shame in looking up information on successful parenting.
Noreena Lewis ended her open letter to the parents of teenaged girls by sharing personal sentiments. Lewis stated that she did not yet have a daughter, but she looked forward to the experience of watching her future daughter dance with her father on her wedding day. She revealed the feelings of grief that she often experiences when watching the father-daughter dances at the weddings of friends and family members. Lewis stated that while her father died without her having experienced any feelings of redemption in their relationship, she knew that she could help to provide a better experience for her own daughter, and hopefully, for many other daughters around the world.