The Rich and the Famous Use This Parenting Lesson to Empower Their Children

Different people have a different way of parenting, but it has been seen that there is a particular parenting lesson that rich and famous people commonly use to empower their kids. Amongst these rich and famous people include the likes of Bill Gates, Michelle Obama, and Warren Buffett. Even though these people have achieved a lot during their life and inspired millions of others in the field of finance, technology, peace, and social welfare, it is quite sure that it is their children who would be carrying forward their family traditions and legacy. And, it is primarily because of the parenting styles of their parents.

One of the first parenting mantras that all these three parents use is to teach their kids to value who they are. Michelle Obama says that she learned from her parents that the kids love to express themselves and that they should be given the space to do so without restrictions. Also, she mentioned that the parents must provide the due importance to the kids when they express themselves and share their opinions. It should not be taken for granted as giving the importance to the voice of the kids makes them a good and competitive orator.

Warren Buffet said that he doesn’t hope to live his life through his children, which he believes many people are trying these days. He said that he has allowed his children to follow their passion and dreams and there is no pressure whatsoever to follow any specific footsteps of the parents. He meant that the path to fulfillment is unique for each and each parent must ensure that the kids of today’s generation have the liberty to do what they want as long as it is constructive and positive.

Bill Gate and his wife Melinda Gates believe that the family traditions and values of staying together, going to family trips along and ensuring equality between boys and girls have helped their children to be independent and built on principles that govern successful people.

The Baby Box for New Parents

The baby box is something that has that has gained a lot of attention. There are a ton of people that are interested in new baby boxes because it gives people access to some physical products for the baby. It also gives people access to education about how to care for a child.

So many people that have access to the universal baby box will have a pathway to a better safety program for their children. There are things like Sudden Unexpected Infant Death Syndrome. There are new mothers that may not know anything about parenting, but the new box will help a lot of people. There are many people that will be able to get the baby box for their babies to sleep in. New parents are going to appreciate the box because it provides some products that can help people make better decisions when it comes to purchase things for their newborns.

Baby wipes and diapers are just a part of the products that are in the box. There are also clothes and breast pads for mothers. Many parents in New Jersey will appreciate this because it was the first state to put this into place. The baby box is quite a nice gift for new parents. The cost of this box is about $150. That is a considerable amount of savings for new parents.

Tons of people are going to appreciate what the Baby Box does for parents that are struggling. New parents have wondered how they can actually find ways to educate themselves on parenting concepts. Parenting is certainly a very challenging job, and all mothers can use some help in the beginning. This is a very comforting thing for all the people that may be struggling with the ideal of parenting for the first time.

Baby Box Distribution After Web Education In New Jersey

In January of 2017 New Jersey decided to begin offering parents a baby box. The baby box is extremely popular in Finland. This Nordic country has some of the lowest infant mortality rates in the world. Finland has been giving its expecting mothers baby boxes since the 1930’s. The baby box comes equipped with basics that all newborns will need such as diapers, breast pads for the mom, wipes, clothing and even a tiny mattress. Once emptied, the baby box can be used as the babies’ first bed.

Parents who wish to receive one of these baby boxes need to sign up online and watch a video that is about ten to fifteen minutes long and pass a short quiz after. The video details such subjects as breastfeeding, safe sleeping techniques and local family resources. Sign up is free and at a site called Baby Box University. New Jersey’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board and the Baby Box review board partnered up to offer these boxes to New Jersey residents.

Currently New Jersey is the first state within the United States to begin offering the baby box. New Jersey is expecting to distribute over one hundred thousand baby boxes in 2017 alone. The Center for Disease Control is supplementing New Jersey’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board with a supplemental grand to cover the cost of the Baby Boxes. The Baby Box company is hopeful to establish themselves within more states in the United States. The key to SIDS prevention can be education and the appropriate sleeping conditions, Baby Box is providing both with their box and online videos.

Parenting After Divorce: The Bird Nesting Method

In a recently published New York Times article, writer Beth Behrendt discussed the benefits of a relatively new parenting option for divorced families called the bird nesting method. Behrendt and her ex husband have successfully used the nesting method for the past three years to coparent their three children. In the nesting method, the divorced parents each purchase or rent a separate living space from the family’s previously established home. They then choose alternate days or weeks to come and live in the family home with the children while the alternate spouse returns to the separately assigned living space. In this arrangement, children are thought to feel less jostled and displaced by a divorce because they remain in their home with their own belongings.

Behrendt described the living situation as one that appealed to both she and her ex-husband because they desired to place the needs of their boys before their own needs. During a recent speaking event in New Jersey where Behrendt gave a talk about the nesting method, she described her reaction when she first read about the arrangement in a book about simplified divorces. Behrendt stated that she breathed a sigh of relief at the idea that her boys could maintain as much of their original lives as possible throughout the divorce.

Behrends stated that she is frequently asked about her peculiar nesting arrangement by other well meaning parents in PTA groups or school conferences. She advised for parents considering the method to answer a few questions regarding the method. The parents should ask if they can work together to maintain their previously established home, if they can both reasonably find a home to live in during the times when they are not occupying the home, and if they can come to an agreement about the circumstance. If the answer to any of these questions is no, the nesting method may not be suitable. Those open to the nesting method, however, may find it a reasonable solution to their divorce.

New Jersey Holiday Scams Target Eldery

The air is colder, the holiday lights are everywhere, Christmas deals are in full force, it must e that time of year again. Yes, time to scam the elderly in New Jersey out of their life savings by tricking them to kick up a little extra holiday love. People in New Jersey are being warned to speak to their elderly parents, friends, coworkers, and warn them about the latest holiday scam called the Grandparents Scam. Here is a little about how the scam is pulled off.

 

How the Scam Works

The scam is very clever at the core because it works on tugging at the heart-strings of the elderly. The scammer will call the elderly and pretend to be a grandchild, relying on the person not recognizing the voice on the phone. The person will say they love their grandparent, they are in trouble, and they need the elderly to please keep this a secret from the parents. Since they think they are talking to their favorite grandchild, they try to help out any way they can. Many times the caller will say they are in need of immediate funds to get out of jail, to get home from a foreign country, or to take care of a debt. The caller will try anything to get the elderly to break out that credit card.

 

New Jersey Grandma Scammed

This week an elderly woman in New Jersey was the target of the “grandparents Scam”, and it cost her over $12,000. The scammer convinced the grandmother that they were under arrest and that she needed to go around town to a few stores and load $12,000 on to different iTunes Gift Cards. The grandmother was then instructed to read off those numbers on the cards. The scammer drained the cards quickly before any report could be filed. The Asbury Park Press reported the story in their newspaper and issued a warning for the elderly on how to protect themselves against this popular scam.

 

Today, this scam has gotten so effective that Apple Stores are issuing warning to their customers about how the iTunes cards are now only available to pay for goods, not help relatives make bail. Due to the fact the callers are usually from outside the country, prosecution is all but impossible.

 

The Pains of Parenting

The Pains of Parenting

Raising a child comes with some of life’s most wonderful moments. The child’s first words, steps, and laughs will forever be engrained on a parent’s heart. Unfortunately, the task of raising children is not always so lighthearted. There comes a point in which children start seeking independence, and it can be extraordinarily heart-wrenching for any parent to experience.

Young Children

Children and parents have a lifelong bond that only solidifies during those first few years of complete dependence. Most people, however, do not realize that the dependence is a two way street. The parents will become dependent on their children’s dependence, as odd as that may sound. The mom, or dad, will share in their child’s accomplishments, and feel the happiness and sadness of learning new thing. Parents get to experience what life is like as a child, and their innocence is truly heartwarming. Children will often ask their parents if they can help. Sadly, it does not stay that way forever.

There will come a time when a child will start seeking their independence, even at a young age. They will start demanding to choose their own attire for school, as Emily McCombs has experiences with her son. They might not want their hands held, be walked to school, ask for kisses before climbing onto a boss, or be held while falling asleep.

Adolescence

The terrible teenage years. This is when children really start seeking their independence as a ‘person.’ In all honesty, these years might be so ‘terrible’ because that dependence on their parents, and their parent’s dependence on them, is starting to dissolve. It is hard for a parent to let children make their own choices. It is hard for children to make decisions, especially considering that most of their life has been filled with choices made by their parents. This is brand new territory.

Teenagers will not want every choice made for them. They want independence as an adult. The want to feel a sense of self-worth that is separated from their parents. Their choices should be their own, and the consequences should be their own. Parents have to hang on and experience the rollercoaster, let go of their dependence on leading their children through every twist and turn, and realize that the teenager is getting the best resource for life on their own: experience.

Getting Child Care Costs in Writing

Divorce can be a messy affair. There are so many people that want to part ways with their mates and never see their faces again. If there are no children this may be an easy fix. Divorce papers are signed and each party can go on their way. It can be a lot of trouble to break free of a partner if there are some children that are involved. This is never a clean break. It is even much more likely that you will see one another on a pretty regular basis if the child has some after school activities that they participate in.

 

One of the big challenges that divorced couples face is

bill splitting for the cost of expenses for their children. This happens on so many occasions because there is no written documentation to support who pays what. In most cases the mother gets full custody. Sometimes there is a joint custody situation, but the expenses are still not completely discussed. Judges will usually order the father to pay child support. In situations where the wife is not working there may also be alimony. The extracurricular activities, however, are not really addressed. This can cause problems because a dad that pays child support may assume that he is doing all that the court requires. He may not offer a helping hand financially because he is not obligated to do so.

 

In most situations the male moves on with a new wife and sometimes starts a whole new family. This results in a shift in priorities. He focuses less on children from a previous marriage and puts his time towards the focus on the new relationship. This will cause even more strife with the ex-wife if he is paying for activities for step children or biological kids with his new wife. This is why it is better to get everything in writing as the divorce papers are getting signed. This may be the only way to find peace with the issues that may come forth when children decide to play sports or become cheerleaders.

 

Getting things in writing will cut down on financial confusion. It also stops parents that are trying to take credit for something that they did not really help do.

American Academy of Pediatrics Fights Back Against Anti-Vaccine Parents

With the presidential election in full swing, New Jersey Governor Chris Christie has been in the spotlight. Recently, he created quite a stir in the New Jersey community with his comments that parents “should have some measure of choice” in the vaccination schedule of their children and, specifically, whether or not their children should get vaccinated at all. In response, the American Academy of Pediatrics has issued a series of sweeping statements, very recently releasing a statement that wholeheartedly supports physician practices “firing” parents from their practice, refusing to allow the children of these parents to be patients at their clinic without agreeing to vaccine their kids.

One practice in East Brunswick had a physician that stated that she’s “glad the Academy has taken a stand in support of Pediatricians who do not accept these patients.” She went on to describe the sentiments that many physicians feel. There are many children in every practice who cannot receive vaccines for medical reasons. Sometimes these patients do not have immune systems that can handle the vaccine or are perhaps allergic to some of the ingredients. Ultimately, these patients depend on everyone else to have their vaccines up to date to protect them from these dangerous yet preventable diseases.

For example, there was recently a Measles outbreak in Disneyland, CA. Measles is an entirely preventable disease if up to date on the vaccine. There are major risks to getting Measles, such as the development of brain damage called Encephalitis. If children are properly vaccinated, this is a major risk that can be avoided.

While Governor Chris Christie thrust New Jersey parenting into the spotlight with his comment on vaccine choice, ultimately the American Academy of Pediatrics disagreed with his stance. While there are certain issues that parents absolutely have autonomy over with regards to the healthcare of their children, vaccines should be a non-issue. Parents in New Jersey should absolutely agree to have their children vaccinated. One of the miracles of modern science, dangerous diseases such as Measles and Polio are completely preventable with vaccines. Vaccines even wiped Smallpox off the face of the Earth. With such a powerful weapon against debilitating illnesses, it would be irresponsible not to vaccinate their children. These practices are simply acting in the best interest of their patients by enforcing common sense on vaccination.

PARENTS & GROWING UP

Parenting within central New Jersey, or anywhere for that matter, can be both an internal struggle and a challenge as a whole. The secret lies in learning to overcome and face those challenges head on, be what they be. In Michelle’s Tea’s new novel book, which is called “Black Waves”….she discusses this.

Ms. Tea also discussed numerous factors in parenting which will affect the outcome and overall result of the seeds planted later on in life. Such factors do include but are certainly not limited to: setting and geographical information as it relates to upbringing and birth itself, demographics, age difference, social and gender barriers between parents & siblings themselves, and so much more. The proof truly lies in the pudding, as many say. Some ideas are not directly said or derived specifically throughout the novel piece, yet the message is very clear….and the point is there, whether through a subliminal message or through another form or audience consumer targeting. This author is very clear, and there is no doubt about that….or any room for confusion on that matter.

To whet some appetites in the room just a bit further, I add a quote from a rather interesting online news source:
“Midway through, Michelle leaves San Francisco for Los Angeles, with vague plans to write screenplays, connect with her brother and get sober, or at least cut back a bit. But instead of shifting to an earnest story of self-acceptance, the book breaks itself open.Multiple versions of events….” (http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/25/books/review/black-wave-michelle-tea.html, pg. 1, para. 5)
In this sense, one can see how the book is carried through….and what it says about the many unknown things within the minds of parents and families as a whole. They indeed go through many things internally on a regular daily basis, which is certainly not to be ignored here…..as is not in the article and in the book itself. Many fascinating topics as to the dark and exhausted minds of seasoned parents are covered as well, thinking which stimulates certain ideas which one will typically not find elsewhere. Yet they are interesting to note and consider on the whole, making for quite an interesting sub topic on parenting and family struggles within the big cities and those bigger suburb areas.

Affordable College: A Reality Check

I took part in many cocktail party conversations about where our children were setting their sights on college, but as the time came near to finance this looming expense, economic reality began to slap me in the face. I sought the wisdom of a seasoned parent who was putting her second child through college who gave me the not-so-mathematically-based advice, “you just do it.”

There are many resources out there on funding an education, and how to save money in the process (e.g., click here.), but my nightly dreams were filled with dread of burying my child in student debt and not getting return on the investment. I knew I had to separate the emotional side of college admissions (“my child got into Princeton” from the practical side of why pursue higher education in the first place?

What’s a Parent to Do?

– Look into your state school and community college. I am fortunate to reside in Monmouth County, New Jersey. Rutgers University and Brookdale Community College are both within commuting distance. Have that realistic conversation with your child that out-of-state does not always mean better. Weigh the pros and cons of going away with the reality of the cost of room and board.

– Use the free tools available to help you avoid sticker shock. The College Affordability and Transparency Center provides a handy, concise site where you can easily access a college’s net price calculator and College Scorecard provide easy access to comparing schools. Payscale.com helps parents to see what recent graduates are making and helps bring a realistic answer to the question, “is this worth it?”

– Talk to your son or daughter about debt, but realize their teenaged brains are not really processing what that debt will feel like four or five years down the road when they may want to move out or go on for a higher degree. Do your homework and keep the conversations light. Let your child know you support them and communicate that you believe that college is a match to be made, not a prize to be won. Competitive schools are great, but they may or may not be the best fit for your child.