PARENTS & GROWING UP

Parenting within central New Jersey, or anywhere for that matter, can be both an internal struggle and a challenge as a whole. The secret lies in learning to overcome and face those challenges head on, be what they be. In Michelle’s Tea’s new novel book, which is called “Black Waves”….she discusses this.

 

Ms. Tea also discussed numerous factors in parenting which will affect the outcome and overall result of the seeds planted later on in life. Such factors do include but are certainly not limited to: setting and geographical information as it relates to upbringing and birth itself, demographics, age difference, social and gender barriers between parents & siblings themselves, and so much more. The proof truly lies in the pudding, as many say. Some ideas are not directly said or derived specifically throughout the novel piece, yet the message is very clear….and the point is there, whether through a subliminal message or through another form or audience consumer targeting. This author is very clear, and there is no doubt about that….or any room for confusion on that matter.

 

 

To whet some appetites in the room just a bit further, I add a quote from a rather interesting online news source:

“Midway through, Michelle leaves San Francisco for Los Angeles, with vague plans to write screenplays, connect with her brother and get sober, or at least cut back a bit. But instead of shifting to an earnest story of self-acceptance, the book breaks itself open.Multiple versions of events….” (http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/25/books/review/black-wave-michelle-tea.html, para. 5)

In this sense, one can see how the book is carried through….and what it says about the many unknown things within the minds of parents and families as a whole. They indeed go through many things internally on a regular daily basis, which is certainly not to be ignored here…..as is not in the article and in the book itself. Many fascinating topics as to the dark and exhausted minds of seasoned parents are covered as well, thinking which stimulates certain ideas which one will typically not find elsewhere. Yet they are interesting to note and consider on the whole, making for quite an interesting sub topic on parenting and family struggles within the big cities and those bigger suburb areas.

 

PARENTING AND ITS PERKS

Parenting in large cities, such as in Central New Jersey and Central New York, for example, can its many upsides and pluses in addition to the numerous risks and troubling factors mentioned by the vast masses. For example, with a bigger population also comes more increased security and services available to all. This in itself is not a bad thing at all when you really stop to smell the roses and think about it. Yes, there is more crowded population and pollution. Yet it is a bigger environment which offers more to the parent seeking to raise children, and have them around numerous other children and parents in the area…..therefore, increased protection and family life security as well. There is not to mention the bonus perks of added satisfaction and personal pride which one takes in saying that they are from this city or that city, and that their child or children were brought up in this one or that one, as they say….

 

With parenting in such a large area of the nation as a whole, one does get the added benefit of greater acceptance and more ‘cliques’ or peer groups from which to choose from. No matter where one goes within the city, typically, one is always bound to find and maintain a place of acceptance regardless of any difference. All in all, truly and surely, it is a place to call home. Many numerous people of all backgrounds and stereotypes reside in large cities, and children growing up within them have a greater chance to see and interact with a larger variety of people groups and cultures as a whole….thereby adding to and increasing the overall growth and learning development opportunities within their brains. This also adds to their experience repertoire, and the parent as a whole feels more proud.

 

A slight down side is that:

“Our child could go to school dressed in shorts and a T-shirt and feel wrong and awkward and not himself. Or he could wear what felt right and possibly face the wrath of his fellow elementary-school students.When he woke up on that last day of summer vacation, the first thing he said was that….” (http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/18/fashion/modern-love-transgender-child-identity-parenting.html?_r=0, pg. 1)

Yet all in all more options are offered here.

 

PARENTING & EMPTY NESTERS: YOU KNOW

According to an online web site news source located on this link below, parenting, it seems, it certainly not what it used to be. Financially, emotionally, socially, and spiritually….things have truly changed. In particular, they have changed much for those empty nester parents and their offspring. Allow me to quote a wonderful slice of this online news source(http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/18/fashion/empty-nest-parents-children-college.html?_r=0, pg. 1).
“The etiquette of the empty nest can bedevil even the most sophisticated parent. Take, for instance, the actress Alfre Woodard. Ms. Woodard said that when her younger child (her son, Duncan) went to college in 2012, her depression caught her in a bind.”

Now with that said, it does seem that empty nesters do indeed rage against an eternal or eternally-seeming struggle which at times is more difficult to bear. As such, things can be more difficult and more intolerable to bear as a whole….for the sole parent, the individual who has left the nest or is leaving the nest, and/or the family and friends as a whole. Hard times do truly take their hard toll here, as is mentioned well throughout the article piece.

Another thing to note is the very fact that there are many unfelt and unheard, plus unseen tears…which are bourne by the parents involved. They are carried and often not released or talked about with others, which may sometimes carry a bit of a heavier load on the present family involved as well. A sense of control is maximized as the reins of control are tightened a bit towards the other siblings, of which they may see and feel as unfair…..not truly understanding the feelings or emotional connections which parents go through for their children of any and all ages. Once a son or daughter, always a son or daughter…..and nothing can change that: not time or travel or experience or anything else.

A parent’s job—-at least a good, loving parent’s job—–is to always love and support their children….and feel for them if they are ever hurt, in need, or moving out of the nest. This can be a more painful experience than some will ever know or fully come to grasp within their own life time. Yet it is absolutely and one hundred percent there and present.

How to Treat the Flu When Your Kids Have It

Most people will get the flu at least once in their lives. When your child has influenza, it is your job to take care of them as their parent. But you also need to make sure that you don’t get the flu yourself. This can be helped by always getting a flu shot.

 

The following is a list of guidelines that will help you take proper care of your son or daughter when they have the flu.

 

Consider antiviral drugs.

 

During the first one or two days that you notice flu symptoms in your child, you may be able to get them drug treatments through their doctor or at an urgent care facility. Antiviral drugs can treat influenza because influenza comes from a virus. You cannot treat influenza with antibiotics and those only treat illnesses that are caused by bacteria. It is best to use antiviral drugs in the first one or two days of the flu, but if your child is at extreme risk for influenza complications, you should get antiviral drugs for them no matter where you are in the influenza timeline.

 

Have them stay home from school and all activities.

 

The best way to get rid of the flu is with rest. For this reason, your children should not go to school while they have influenza. Likewise, you’ll likely need to stay home with them. You should both stay home for at least 24 hours or until the flu fever has subsided and your child has a normal temperature. Anyone who has the flu should stay away from the elderly and babies especially.

 

Make sure that you stay safe from the flu.

 

Influenza or the flu is extremely contagious, so you’ll need to be extra careful that you don’t catch the flu as your child’s caretaker. To help in this, make sure that you have the proper equipment. You should have antibacterial hand wipes, hand sanitizer and a face mask.

 

Your child should stay in one room or area of the house so that they don’t spread germs while they have the flu. If you can, allow them to have one bathroom of your home to themselves as well so that you can keep germs there and they don’t spread. When you go into your child’s room, where a face mask. You might even consider wearing gloves. Once you leave, make sure that you wipe down anything that you will be using later with an antibacterial hand wipe, and always use hand sanitizer. Keep tissues or anything else that your child disposes of in a separate bag, and dispose of it immediately.

 

To help your child feel better, make them clear broth with garlic and ginger. They may want to suck on a popsicle or drink some fizzy water to soothe their throat and stomach. Make sure that they get lots of rest and fluids when they can.

 

How to Get Your Child to Be Excited About Oral Health

If you live in central New Jersey and you’re a parent, probably already know how difficult it can be to make sure that your child stays healthy. One of the most important things that you need to monitor in your child’s health is their oral hygiene and overall oral health. For everyone, oral health is absolutely essential to overall health. With each passing year, researchers and health specialists find more reasons why taking care of your teeth and gums is essential to things like cardiovascular health and even brain health.

 

How to help your child improve their oral health

 

As, you know, it’s difficult to get your child excited about taking care of their teeth. It can be a struggle each and every night to get your child to brush their teeth, and many kids are completely against flossing. But there are things you can do at home to help your child get more excited about taking care of their oral health.

 

First, having fun utensils to use when it’s time to brush their teeth at night can motivate children to get more excited about brushing. Remember that children should be brushing their teeth at night and in the morning. They should also be flossing if they have multiple teeth in a row. In other words, they should be flossing if they have at least two teeth that touch. Getting them a fun toothbrush and floss and a tasty toothpaste can help make this experience more exciting.

 

Likewise, you can also play games with your child to make brushing more fun. Sing a song so that you know when brushing can be finished. You might even keep a calendar in the bathroom and give your child a sticker for every day that they brush and floss two times.

 

Depending on how old your child is, it may be time to take them to the dentist as well. As a general rule, it’s a good idea to take your child to the dentist as soon as you see their first tooth pop up. As a final note, make sure that you choose a dentist that is good with kids so that your child isn’t afraid of the dentist the first time they go.

 

New Guidelines on Children’s Nutrition for Parents

As a parent, it’s your duty to take care of your child’s health. Part of this means taking care of the cooking and food preparation in your household. The foods that growing children eat need to be healthy and well-balanced. Your children should be getting all of their daily nutrients and vitamins through their food, and if they are not getting enough nutrients and vitamins through their food, you should be giving them dietary supplements to supplement these essentials. Use the following guidelines to make sure that your child stays healthy year-round through the food that they eat at home.

 

Fruits and Vegetables

 

Fruits and vegetables should make up most of your children’s diets. Vegetables should be eaten more than fruits in general. Fruits make great desserts. You can find ways to incorporate vegetables into your children’s diets in tasty side dishes, salads, wraps and even through fruit-based shakes that have vegetables hidden in them.

 

Protein and Calcium

 

Protein and calcium are also essential for your child’s diet. Protein should be lean. You should avoid red meat when possible. Fish is great because it incorporates omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, which are helpful for brain and cardiovascular health. Lean chicken and turkey is also good for sources of protein. For calcium, be sure that your children are eating and drinking an adequate amount of cheese and milk each day.

 

What to Do About Sweets

 

Aside from these nutrition essentials, your children are going to want sweets at least some of the time. That’s just the way it is. They’ll get ice cream, cookies and other goodies at their friends’ houses or at school. As a parent, you should limit these foods at home. But it’s okay to eat some of these things in moderation. Saving them for special occasions is the best idea.

 

Finally, it’s important to state again that if you are not sure that your child is getting enough nutrients and vitamins from their food alone, you should get them a children’s daily multivitamin to supplement their essential nutrients. Children’s vitamins are readily available at most grocery stores and pharmacies.

 

How to Prepare Healthier Foods for Your Kids

As the mother in your central New Jersey family, it is usually up to you to make dinners for your family. This can be difficult if you are working even part time as mothers have to do much more than just make food and to do their regular jobs. They are often nurses, doctors, cleaning ladies and more in their homes. But there are ways that you can make sure to put healthy, delicious food on the table every night for you and your family. Check out they advice listed below.

 

Prepare food ahead of time.

 

The best way to make sure that you will have healthy dinners for you and your family is to prepare foods ahead of time. One good way to do this is to set aside an afternoon every week for food preparation. For many mothers, Sunday or Saturday are good days to do this, and you can even enlist the help of your family. You can make soups, stews, crockpot recipes and salads that can all be stored away in the refrigerator or freezer to be reheated or eaten throughout the week.

 

Make dinners where assembly by you is not required.

 

There are many dinners that you can make that basically only include opening up containers and possibly cutting and chopping a few things. Tacos, sandwiches, wraps and salads are like this. You just need to prepare the ingredients. Your family will make what they want with the fixings that you provide. This is also a great idea for picky families because everyone will get exactly what they want.

 

Set some food boundaries.

 

As the parent and head of the household, you will need to make sure that unhealthy foods don’t take over your kitchen. This can be difficult when unhealthy foods are usually the most popular and when your family grumbles about eating lots of fruits and vegetables. But it’s essential that you keep your cupboards, refrigerator and freezer full of healthy foods. Teaching your family how to be healthy on a regular basis is your responsibility as a parent, and if you follow the guidelines listed above, it’s not too difficult to do either.

 

How to Fit Exercise Into Your Family’s Schedule

As a parent, it’s your responsibility to make sure that everyone in your family is healthy and happy. In order to be healthy and happy, it is evident that routine physical exercise is absolutely necessary for everyone.

 

For this reason, it’s a great idea to organize physical fitness routines for your family throughout the week. Spending time together during these workouts can also help you and your family bond more. Use the following ideas to integrate exercise into your family’s schedule and see what it can do for you.

 

Ways for You and Your Spouse and Kids to Exercise Together

 

  1. Play an active game together.

 

Playing games is not only fun, but it’s also exercise, and you probably won’t even notice that you’re working out. Great athletic game ideas for families include bowling, badminton, soccer, basketball or baseball. As a final note, remember not to get too serious about these games. They are just for fun.

 

  1. Take a bike ride or walk around the block together.

 

If you’re just getting started working out as a family, you should take it slow. A good idea is to simply take a bike ride or walk around your block. It’s a great workout, and it’s a good time to chat with your family as well.

 

  1. Get on the trampoline.

 

If you have a trampoline in your backyard, this is a great way to spend time with your family and get a workout in. Always make sure to follow the safety guidelines that come with your trampoline so that no one gets hurt.

 

  1. Go for a hike.

 

Going for hikes can be great exercise, and it’s also a perfect time to chat and spend time with your family while enjoying the great outdoors. As you improve your physical fitness, you can make your hikes more challenging as well.

 

Finally, remember that no one’s perfect. If you miss a few exercise routines or workouts on your family schedule, don’t sweat it. The fact that you are simply thinking about physical fitness as a family and doing at least some workouts together is absolutely great.

 

Katie Holmes Talks About Parenting

People have long admired Katie Holmes’ ability to juggle her professional and personal life. Katie’s daughter, Suri, has grown in the spotlight. She is now 10-years-old and will appear on the April 2017 edition of “Town And Country.” She talks about parenting in the magazine.

 

Katie stated that even though she enjoys acting, raising her daughter is her top priority. She wants to make sure that her daughter grows up happy and innocent. Katie also wants to do everything that she can to help her daughter succeed in life.

 

Katie talked about how kids grow up fast. She is excited to see her daughter become more independent and try new things, but it is also scary. She wants her daughter to stay with her forever, but she knows that she will eventually have to let go. She stated that it is going to be a sad day when her daughter leaves the house.

 

Kate also talked about how when she is not acting, she is spending time with her daughter. She stated that she tries to leave events by 10 p.m. so that she can get home to her daughter. She stated that it is important to be a dependable mom to her daughter.

 

Katie is active on Instagram and regularly posts photos of her daughter. She has a photo of her daughter baking with her friend. The photo has the caption “Strong little girls become strong women. Let’s keep fighting to make the world a better place for children.”

 

Harsh Parenting Can Hurt Children Academically

There is a study that recently revealed how parenting methods can affect children’s performance in school. The results of the study showed that children who are exposed to harsh parenting are more likely to perform poorly in the classroom. Harsh parenting includes behaviors such as yelling, hitting and making threats.

 

The study involved 1,482 students who were between the ages of 12 and 18 who were followed for nine years. Students from different socioeconomic and racial backgrounds were included in the study. The subjects were asked about their parents verbal and physical aggression. They were also asked about their grades in school and interaction with peers.

 

Students who were subjected to harsh parenting reported that hanging out with their peers was more important than school work. They also reported engaging in early sexual behavior. All of these behaviors lead to low academic achievement. Subjects who had harsh parents were also more likely to drop out of high school after three years.

 

Ming Te-Wang is an associate professor at the University of Pittsburgh. He was also one of the co-authors of the study. He stated that students who had low academic achievement were targeted for intervention. They were encouraged to enroll in programs that encouraged educational attainment. The programs also focused on helping people develop healthy relationships.

 

Programs that focus on individual goals can help people who have been parented harshly learn better. This will ultimately help them increase their educational attainment, which will increase their chances of getting the career that they want.