PARENTS & GROWING UP

Parenting within central New Jersey, or anywhere for that matter, can be both an internal struggle and a challenge as a whole. The secret lies in learning to overcome and face those challenges head on, be what they be. In Michelle’s Tea’s new novel book, which is called “Black Waves”….she discusses this.

 

Ms. Tea also discussed numerous factors in parenting which will affect the outcome and overall result of the seeds planted later on in life. Such factors do include but are certainly not limited to: setting and geographical information as it relates to upbringing and birth itself, demographics, age difference, social and gender barriers between parents & siblings themselves, and so much more. The proof truly lies in the pudding, as many say. Some ideas are not directly said or derived specifically throughout the novel piece, yet the message is very clear….and the point is there, whether through a subliminal message or through another form or audience consumer targeting. This author is very clear, and there is no doubt about that….or any room for confusion on that matter.

 

 

To whet some appetites in the room just a bit further, I add a quote from a rather interesting online news source:

“Midway through, Michelle leaves San Francisco for Los Angeles, with vague plans to write screenplays, connect with her brother and get sober, or at least cut back a bit. But instead of shifting to an earnest story of self-acceptance, the book breaks itself open.Multiple versions of events….” (http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/25/books/review/black-wave-michelle-tea.html, pg. 1, para. 5)

In this sense, one can see how the book is carried through….and what it says about the many unknown things within the minds of parents and families as a whole. They indeed go through many things internally on a regular daily basis, which is certainly not to be ignored here…..as is not in the article and in the book itself. Many fascinating topics as to the dark and exhausted minds of seasoned parents are covered as well, thinking which stimulates certain ideas which one will typically not find elsewhere. Yet they are interesting to note and consider on the whole, making for quite an interesting sub topic on parenting and family struggles within the big cities and those bigger suburb areas.

 

PARENTING AND ITS PERKS

Parenting in large cities, such as in Central New Jersey and Central New York, for example, can its many upsides and pluses in addition to the numerous risks and troubling factors mentioned by the vast masses. For example, with a bigger population also comes more increased security and services available to all. This in itself is not a bad thing at all when you really stop to smell the roses and think about it. Yes, there is more crowded population and pollution. Yet it is a bigger environment which offers more to the parent seeking to raise children, and have them around numerous other children and parents in the area…..therefore, increased protection and family life security as well. There is not to mention the bonus perks of added satisfaction and personal pride which one takes in saying that they are from this city or that city, and that their child or children were brought up in this one or that one, as they say….

 

With parenting in such a large area of the nation as a whole, one does get the added benefit of greater acceptance and more ‘cliques’ or peer groups from which to choose from. No matter where one goes within the city, typically, one is always bound to find and maintain a place of acceptance regardless of any difference. All in all, truly and surely, it is a place to call home. Many numerous people of all backgrounds and stereotypes reside in large cities, and children growing up within them have a greater chance to see and interact with a larger variety of people groups and cultures as a whole….thereby adding to and increasing the overall growth and learning development opportunities within their brains. This also adds to their experience repertoire, and the parent as a whole feels more proud.

 

A slight down side is that:

“Our child could go to school dressed in shorts and a T-shirt and feel wrong and awkward and not himself. Or he could wear what felt right and possibly face the wrath of his fellow elementary-school students.When he woke up on that last day of summer vacation, the first thing he said was that….” (http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/18/fashion/modern-love-transgender-child-identity-parenting.html?_r=0, pg. 1)

Yet all in all more options are offered here.