Limiting Your Child’s Cell Phone Use

Most teenagers display information on Facebook and many appear on multiple social media webpages. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow users to play games online, chat, and share photos and personal information. They can purchase almost anything they want online.

 

Limiting your child’s cell phone use is difficult when you, the parent, model smartphone, landline, social media, and Internet use seven to nine hours each day. Your computers, televisions, and e-readers become family values. Your toddler plays with and talks on the phone before he or she knows the alphabet.

 

The Massachusetts Institute of Technology recommends “screen-free times and places” to “reclaim conversation.” Your children need prosocial bonds, and the ability to express their ideas and communicate their feelings is an important part of communication skills. Common Sense Media stresses the importance putting digital devices aside. Family rules should apply to all members of the family. If dinner is a no phone time and the dinner table is a no phone zone, then mom and dad should not walk away from the table to take “important calls” in the midst of discussions of what’s new at school.

 

Reading with your children increases their skills, but it also helps you develop their interests. Your children are expected to recognize, understand, and use 1000s of words at an early age. They can toggle back and forth, switch screens, and cut and paste, but can they read and process the information in books and articles? The word hippo does not help them organize thoughts. You can use time gained from turning off the phones to develop your children’s interests in more depth or to discuss current events, family matters, or youth organizations.

 

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that families develop a “family media plan” for young children and teenagers. Children and teenagers need to acquire knowledge through “exposure to new ideas,” but they also need “social contact and support.” You should know who your child talks to online and which websites they visit to restrict inappropriate or potentially harmful contacts. The Academy of Pediatrics recommends developing family boundaries for sharing personal information online and willingness to share time spent online together.

 

 

 

 

Mommy in Labor Called to Breast Feed her Hungry Two-Year-Old Daughter

There is no doubt that a good parent goes above and beyond for a child. This is innate as most parents try to give their children their all, which is something that Kate Neal demonstrated while giving birth to her child. Neal’s eldest was in the room and got a little hungry, and her labor did not stop her from feeding her two-year-old child.

 

Neal was having a home birth, but her midwife was not happy with the progression of her labor. It seems that Neal’s blood pressure raised some concerns, which is when they decided to go to the hospital. Neal had not seen her little girl for some time due to the labor, so she was very happy to see her.

 

It may be possible that her little girl, Rowan, was just hungry or she just missed her mother, but the point is that she asked to be fed. Neal was more than happy to oblige and she had not taken any drugs at this time since it was pretty early on in her labor. Everyone, including the midwife, thought it would be perfectly fine to breastfeed little Rowan.

 

Neal’s little girl did not feed for too long before leaving to play as most kids would. It was not too long after this beautiful moment that her labor began and, in the blink of an eye, Sloane was born.

 

There is no doubt that this mother will not let anything stop her from giving her all to her children. Sloan may be too young to understand just yet, but she is one lucky little girl. Neal did not feel strange about feeding her new born so soon after feeding her other child. This is definitely a story that is going to be told for years. Neal might not have known this, but it seems that breastfeeding before labor may help speed up the labor process, making birth a little easier.

 

Clowns Chasing Children In New Jersey Terrifies Parents

Across the country, we have seen a ridiculous trend of people dressing up like clowns to scare strangers. The stories are endless. Some are harmless, while others are terrifying. Joggers on a run are confronted with a creepy clown on their path. A man spots a clown standing in his yard. These stories are scary, but when you add children into the mix, things get even scarier. It seems as New Jersey parents now have one more thing to worry about. The local media reported at least four clown sightings and explained a possible threat to children.

 

At least two children from central New Jersey have reported being confronted by a person dressed as a clown. And, it gets worse. These clowns were carrying weapons. One of these children’s stories is truly horrifying. Tyler Carpenter explains that he was walking home through an alley when he spotted a person dressed as a clown. The clown begin walking towards him and that’s when he noticed the person was carrying a sword. The child alleges that the clown muttered a threat before chasing him. Fortunately, Carpenter was able to get home safely and call authorities.

 

In the same town of Phillipsburg, another child came forth with their own clown encounter. The child alleges that he and two other children were walking home from school when a group of clowns emerged from the woods and began to chase them,

 

So far, authorities have made no arrests in these cases and do not have any suspects, As clown sightings around the country have began to wind down, parents are hoping this means incidents like this will stop happening, Fortunately, in all of these situations, the children were able to get to safety and were not harmed in any way.

 

 

 

 

Adults and Children Are Helped by Parenting Classes

Raising a child is something that be very stressful. It is a responsibility that you cannot truly prepare for. You will never really know what it is like to raise a child until you have one yourself. However, there is now some help available to parents who are having a more difficult time raising their children than they bargained for. There are various parenting classes that parents can attend. You need to make sure that you attend a parenting class that is designed for people who have children the same age as your son or daughter. For example, the Incredible Years Parenting Class is designed for parents who have children between the ages of two and eight.

 

Parenting classes teach a wide variety of things. They are effective at showing parents various methods of communicating with their children better. They can also show you how to help your child fit in better at school and with other children in the neighborhood. It is essential that your child develop good social skills. Parenting classes can assist you in helping a shy child make friends. These classes can also show you ways to help your child get prepared for their first day at school.

 

Children do not come with an instruction manual when you have them. Therefore, even people who think they are outstanding parents can use a little help occasionally. Parenting classes can give you valuable advice that you can start to implement into your daily routine. They can’t turn a terrible parent into a great parent. However, the knowledge that you will gain from parenting classes will help you to become more attuned to your child’s specific needs. In many cases, children are afraid to talk about certain things with their parents. It is essential that you make your child feel comfortable enough to confide in you.

 

New Jersey Holiday Scams Target Eldery

The air is colder, the holiday lights are everywhere, Christmas deals are in full force, it must e that time of year again. Yes, time to scam the elderly in New Jersey out of their life savings by tricking them to kick up a little extra holiday love. People in New Jersey are being warned to speak to their elderly parents, friends, coworkers, and warn them about the latest holiday scam called the Grandparents Scam. Here is a little about how the scam is pulled off.

 

How the Scam Works

The scam is very clever at the core because it works on tugging at the heart-strings of the elderly. The scammer will call the elderly and pretend to be a grandchild, relying on the person not recognizing the voice on the phone. The person will say they love their grandparent, they are in trouble, and they need the elderly to please keep this a secret from the parents. Since they think they are talking to their favorite grandchild, they try to help out any way they can. Many times the caller will say they are in need of immediate funds to get out of jail, to get home from a foreign country, or to take care of a debt. The caller will try anything to get the elderly to break out that credit card.

 

New Jersey Grandma Scammed

This week an elderly woman in New Jersey was the target of the “grandparents Scam”, and it cost her over $12,000. The scammer convinced the grandmother that they were under arrest and that she needed to go around town to a few stores and load $12,000 on to different iTunes Gift Cards. The grandmother was then instructed to read off those numbers on the cards. The scammer drained the cards quickly before any report could be filed. The Asbury Park Press reported the story in their newspaper and issued a warning for the elderly on how to protect themselves against this popular scam.

 

Today, this scam has gotten so effective that Apple Stores are issuing warning to their customers about how the iTunes cards are now only available to pay for goods, not help relatives make bail. Due to the fact the callers are usually from outside the country, prosecution is all but impossible.

 

Tips to deal with child emotional agility

It is not always easy to watch your child when they are unhappy. It doesn’t matter why the child is sad, could be the popping of a balloon or loss of a pet but the main point is to brighten their face again as soon as possible. That is what most parents target to do. But does the immediate relief of the emotional agility help the child in the long run?

Below are three practical procedures a parent, a guardian or even a teacher can practice.

Feel their pain as well

As a parent, you need to fit in her emotional world and that way, you will avoid just pushing away the feeling with mere words. Such expressions like, do not be sad, “you should not be as angry, or it will go away soon, means you don’t understand how the child feels.

Recognize their emotion without concealing

You should be able to differentiate between stressful situations and disappointment or anger in your child’s behavior. It will help you to empathize with the child’s feelings rather than using display rules like most parents do to try to push the negative emotions away. Display rules are expressions such as; boys don’t cry! Or you are a big girl now! You are just telling your child that being emotional is wrong. But in the real sense, you are wrong yourself.

Watch the feeling go.

Help your child to understand that the feeling won’t last forever and it’s okay to be emotionally affected by some life experiences. Tell them you encountered such situations and how you overcame them (it doesn’t have to be real encounter). By this, you will be helping your child to notice that there is no bigger sadness that cannot be dealt with and thus it will come to pass. Assist your child in this phase in such a way that they will be able to handle similar situations in a better way in future. Also, make them know that with a similar experience they might not feel the same way they felt in their previous encounter.

“How kids steer their emotional world is very crucial to lifetime success,” psychologist Susan David said. Thus it is very sensitive how you handle your emotionally troubled child. You can also in your life be anxious, agitated, frustrated or even excited about anything, thus the need to recognize such, in others.

 

 

Rainbow Chow, Food Gadgets and Pink Poop

It has been known for a long time that immature eye development causes young children to be attracted to bright things.Born color blind and up until the age of three, children see a diluted version of the colors that an adult sees. Toy manufactures learned early on that young children prefer primary colors and that bright toys equal sales revenue. The same concept holds true for food.

 

The Atlas Abscura reflects back to the ‘70s when Franken Berry Cereal was sending frantic parents to emergency rooms worried about their children’s bright pink bowel movements. The culprit was not a life threatening disease but red dyes number two and three. Dating back even earlier, Fairy Bread started in the 1920s. This white bread smothered in butter and adorned with sprinkles is making a comeback in trendy eateries and is sure to please the visual senses (even if it is a nutritional nightmare.) We must admit that five decades brought a lot of positive research and fortunately safer dye alternatives became readily available.

 

Healthy cooking doesn’t have to be unattractive, unhealthy or boring. We can still tap the eye-appealing colors that a child is attracted to in a much safer way. A quick Pintrest search entitled “healthy rainbow recipes for kids” returns information on how to make everything from Rainbow Cauliflower Crust Pizza to Rainbow Waffles.

 

Throw in a gadget like egg molds shaped like animals and toast that can brand the words, “I Love You” centered between the crusts. How about a food plate in the shape of a face where you can add food features like spaghetti hair or googly-eyed tooth picks that can be inserted to give their sandwich some personality? The options are only as limited as the imagination.

 

We know children can be finicky eaters. There are easy ways to play on their senses and make food fun and eye appealing. We can only hope it gets them reaching for the broccoli and kale.

The Costly Necessity of Epi Pens

This afternoon, a friend dropped her three girls off for me to watch. One of the girls has a severe nut allergy and my friend handed me a little pouch with cute pictures and the cartoon word “Allergy,” on the outside.

I peeked inside and was so impressed with the amount of organization– everything was labeled. The back up epi pen was clearly marked. A pre-measured dosage of Benadryl was included. Instructions on what to do should the need arise, were included and laminated. I love organization and this pouch exemplified it; however, before I could voice my praise, I was struck with the fact that this pouch was vitally important to her little girl’s well being. Had she neglected to leave out any of the items– especially the Epi pen– it would mean the difference between life and death for her little girl.

My friend walked me through the steps on how to use the epi pen. Sadly, my husband is deathly allergic to bees and has two of his own tucked away, so I was familiar with what to do. Thankfully, he has never needed it and neither has my friend’s little girl. However, whether they are used or not, they still have to be replaced yearly as their effectiveness diminishes over time.

My husband can not control getting stung by a bee. My friend can not be there every moment of every day to make sure a nut never comes near her friend. The company that manufactures these life saving medical marvels can control it’s costs.

As reported in the NY Times, the company that produces and sells these pens is releasing a generic pen at a lower cost. However, the generic pens made by the same company selling the name brand pens, is still 300 dollars.

Why can’t they just lower the price of their original product? They have no competitors that are offering a similar product, hence an introduction of a generic item typically. They will still control the monopoly of their product and they control both the cost of the original and the generic. Neither is a cost saving benefit to the people who desperately depend on them.

Despite the fact that Mylan, the company that produces Epi pens, blames others for the cost increase, they are the ones who stand the most to gain from supplying a life saving Epi pen at an increased cost.

When you have a life threatening allergy, you can not escape it or the daily threat it opposes to you or your loved one. Now, you also can not control the fact that the cost is skyrocketing on an item that you desperately need. It seems that is exactly what Mylan is banking on.

Babies Don’t Stay In The Nursery Any Longer

If you’ve ever had a baby or you know someone who has had a baby, then you know that there is a nursery in the hospital where the baby is often kept at night or where nurses provide care when the mother needs to rest. There are some hospitals that are electing to get rid of nurseries. It’s a baby friendly initiative that staff members are looking at so that parents can spend as much time as possible with the newborn.

Most mothers want to have their baby close by them while in the room. They can spend those precious first few hours and days with the baby, learning how to breastfeed, change the diaper and simply provide the care that the baby needs while bonding. Hospitals across the country are now making the suggestion that unless there is an emergency or medical care is needed, then the baby should stay in the room with the mother. This maneuver is to encourage mothers to bond with the baby and to learn to breastfeed, which is sometimes a healthier option than giving formula.

There are 355 hospitals in the country that have started this practice, and the initiative is taking off to a good start. There are plans to be over 500 in the United States by the end of next year. Keeping the baby with the mother is the ideal environment as it’s healthier for both the mother and the baby. The mother is able to get into a routine of caring for the baby like she would at home and possibly get the baby on a sleep schedule before leaving the hospital. There are many parents who think highly of this new idea, and there are some who feel that the mother needs privacy to rest, especially at night. Some women do go through several hours of labor with no sleep, and it’s understandable that they want to rest before going home. Mothers should have the option of keeping the baby in the room around the clock or not.

Outrage Over Common Core Testing

The buzz over the past couple schools years has been the curriculum. That trend seems to hold strong to this school years also. According to an online Wall Street Journal article http://www.wsj.com/articles/new-jersey-parents-voice-concerns-over-tests-linked-to-common-core-1422495788. Parents and educators are expressing outrage and are pensive about the new state tests starting in March.

These new online tests are a reflection of Common core; a dirty word for most educators. The standards are tougher for what students are supposed to learn and Parents are anxious about how these tests will make their kids feel. The key arguments against these tests include things such as the tests using up too much class time, the tests will be too hard, the tests will negatively impact students’ self-esteem, and the tests will waste taxpayer money.

Being a father of two children dealing with the same situation, I can empathize with the New Jersey parents. The class material has noticeably changed since I was in school to the point where I have to teach myself this stuff before I can help my kids with their work. A simple subtraction problem has evolved into some sort of half-page monster that makes no sense. It reminds me of the adage, if it isn’t broken, don’t fix it. My kids are still in elementary school, I can only imagine how much the curriculum has changed for high school students. Being a parent, it is our responsibility to help our children succeed in school.

I sympathize with the parents of New Jersey. It is good to see that 45 people signed up to speak their mind in the meeting discussed in the article. I hope the people in charge of coming up with the curriculum realize the folly of their ways and bring things back to the old school way. It’s so much easier that this substitution method our kids are learning today.