How Assertiveness Can Help You Raise Better Kids

Despite the ever-present temptation that parents have to agree to their kids’ wishes, research indicates that it nurtures a sense of inadequacy that can never be satisfied. Their demands might seem trivial at first but nonetheless, the intensity and quantity of demands made increase with time. This highlights the importance of nipping such behaviors in the bud as soon as they are noticed.

 

Saying no to your kids’ demands may make you look like a savage. However, they learn from it over time. Initially, you will get plenty of unfriendly and mean looks. They may even revolt and call you a meanie. This is an expected outcome because they will ultimately realize the fun that accompanies every No from you. It has also been found out that disagreeing with kids’ demands pays off in the long run because it helps you avoid the unnecessary trouble of raising spoilt kids.

 

Tough Love

 

Some call it tough love but nonetheless, learning to say no helps mold your kids into go-getters, and adults who are adaptable to any situation. By yielding to your kids’ demands all the time, you deny them the opportunity to seek solutions, and working with what they have at hand. Research shows that kids whose parents were assertive decision makers realize early that they will not always have things done their way. This makes them learn to pursue further goals besides setting higher standards for themselves. In the long run, they develop the ability to cultivate the value of resourcefulness and pragmatism.

 

When raising young children, you should understand that they are empirically resourceful. If you give a spoon to a toddler for instance, all manner of uses will come to his/her mind. On the other hand, an adult is stuck to using it for eating. This clearly shows that many years spent pursuing petty ends corrodes our ability to make more use of what we have.

 

Every time you agree to your kids’ request to buy something, you imperceptibly show them that the resources that they currently have at their disposal have limited uses. An occasional veto compels them to think of alternatives. Abundance shouldn’t be seen as a mark of success to the extent that is makes you agree to every wish that your kids make. This is because kids can grow into resourceful adults by merely experiencing occasional scarcity.

 

Should Conservative New Jersey Parents Consider Homeschooling

After the development of new California state laws which would force public school students to be indoctrinated with controversial topics as early as the 2nd grade, New Jersey conservatives have been discussing the option of a mass exodus from the public school system into the homeschooling movement. The homeschooling movement has been increasing in popularity since the 1960s when the federal government in the United States began to make its presence heavily known in public schools across the nation. When United States citizens realized that the federal government would always seek to expand its scope of influence, thousands of parents began to partner together to regain their rights to the education of their own children.

 

New Jersey conservatives have become a minority in the fairly liberal state and are seeking to join the homeschool movement. A representative from the conservative party in New Jersey participated in an interview regarding the increasing popularity of home education in the state and its influence on the New Jersey public school system. This representatives discussed the fact that the liberal government has consistently pressed its secularist, humanist agenda upon all pupils of the public school system as if these worldview were considered to be fact by the American people. New Jersey conservatives would like the state’s government to know that they do not speak on behalf of every family in the state and that the responsibility to educate children rests on those children’s parents, not the state government.

 

The New Jersey government has been in complete opposition to the growing home education movement in the liberal state for years. The placement of President Donald Trump’s new cabinet, including the nomination of conservative activist Betsy Devos as the United States Secretary of Education, has become a great encouragement to conservatives in New Jersey. Because Betsy Devos is a great proponent of rights of parents to educate their own children in the ways they see fit, New Jersey conservatives have been increasingly choosing home education as a practical alternative to the steady indoctrination of children into a social program which is increasingly hostile to morality and common sense.

 

Baby Boxes are Coming to Central Jersey

New Jersey is the first state to test out a new program aimed at lowering the incidence of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). It consists of a free box designed to be a crib for a newborn, and it is given to new parents as a way to educate them on SIDS and how to prevent it.

 

More than just a box, it is filled with clothes, diapers, baby wipes, breast pads, a firm mattress, a fitted sheet, bathing products, and more baby essentials.

 

In order to receive the box, however, the parents must pass a quiz following a 10 to 15 minute online educational video created by medical professionals. The topics include safe sleep, newborn care, and breastfeeding. They can then obtain the box at a designated location or have it sent to the home.

 

In 2017, New Jersey plans to hand out 105,000 baby boxes, a figure based on the number of expected births.

 

The idea originated in Finland, which now has an extremely low infant mortality rate. In the 1930’s, the country was poor, with a very high infant death rate of 65 per 1000 births. A similar baby box program was started, in part because many of the poor didn’t have cribs or bassinets. Eventually, all parents were eligible for the box. Now, the death rate is 2.52 deaths per 1000. The United States’ rate is 6.5 deaths per 1000, or 23rd in the world.

 

In New Jersey, the project is being coordinated by The Baby Box Company of California and the state Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board(CFNFRB), and is funded by a $40,000 grant from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). It is available to all, but the recipient must apply online for it. Sign up at Baby Box University.

 

Factors that lower a baby’s risk of SIDS include the well-known recommendation that they be placed on their backs at naptime and bedtime. Other safety measures include leaving pillows, blankets, stuffed animals, bumpers or any other items except the mattress and sheet outside the crib or box. Also forbidden is smoking or substance use inside the house during pregnancy and after birth. Breastfeeding exclusively for six months or as much as possible is encouraged.

 

New Jersey Offers Free Baby Boxes

The newly developed Baby Box Company in New Jersey recently made headlines due to their launch of a new program where decorated cardboard boxes are delivered to the homes of families with newborn babies. The education themed company uses the boxes to educate the families of newborns on the risks associated with new born sleeping habits. The Baby Box Company has distributed at least 3000 baby boxes to households in the New Jersey area and have plans to distribute thousands more before the end of the summer. A spokesperson from the company stated that she believes the baby box campaign will promote healthy and safe sleeping habits to families of infants.

 

New Jersey has long been heralded as the state with the least occurrences of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) in the United States. The Baby Box Company’s spokesperson, however, does not believe this statistic is indicative of a thorough change in the state. The spokesperson stated that the New Jersey health care system has made massive strides to prevent SIDS, but there is a massive amount of work which still needs to be done. Low income areas of New Jersey are particularly susceptible to SIDS and it is this community that the Baby Box Company hopes to reach most.

 

Because low income areas often remain unreached by attempts by the healthcare community to educate new mothers, the Baby Box Company has made an effort to target these areas with baby boxes first. The company is adamant that new mothers are made aware that an infant’s placement in common sleep areas with adults or older siblings is the most common cause of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. The company’s representative stated that the Baby Box Company includes relevant and informative information pamphlets in the decorated cardboard baby boxes. These pamphlets include information about the care of the boxes that discuss issues about decoration and comfort items. The Baby Box company recommends that the box be kept bare to eliminate the risk of infant mortality due to excessive objects being present in the infant’s sleeping environment. Company representatives stated that the feedback from the program has been overwhelmingly positive.

 

Katie Holmes Talks About Parenting

People have long admired Katie Holmes’ ability to juggle her professional and personal life. Katie’s daughter, Suri, has grown in the spotlight. She is now 10-years-old and will appear on the April 2017 edition of “Town And Country.” She talks about parenting in the magazine.

 

Katie stated that even though she enjoys acting, raising her daughter is her top priority. She wants to make sure that her daughter grows up happy and innocent. Katie also wants to do everything that she can to help her daughter succeed in life.

 

Katie talked about how kids grow up fast. She is excited to see her daughter become more independent and try new things, but it is also scary. She wants her daughter to stay with her forever, but she knows that she will eventually have to let go. She stated that it is going to be a sad day when her daughter leaves the house.

 

Kate also talked about how when she is not acting, she is spending time with her daughter. She stated that she tries to leave events by 10 p.m. so that she can get home to her daughter. She stated that it is important to be a dependable mom to her daughter.

 

Katie is active on Instagram and regularly posts photos of her daughter. She has a photo of her daughter baking with her friend. The photo has the caption “Strong little girls become strong women. Let’s keep fighting to make the world a better place for children.”

 

Limiting Your Child’s Cell Phone Use

Most teenagers display information on Facebook and many appear on multiple social media webpages. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow users to play games online, chat, and share photos and personal information. They can purchase almost anything they want online.

 

Limiting your child’s cell phone use is difficult when you, the parent, model smartphone, landline, social media, and Internet use seven to nine hours each day. Your computers, televisions, and e-readers become family values. Your toddler plays with and talks on the phone before he or she knows the alphabet.

 

The Massachusetts Institute of Technology recommends “screen-free times and places” to “reclaim conversation.” Your children need prosocial bonds, and the ability to express their ideas and communicate their feelings is an important part of communication skills. Common Sense Media stresses the importance putting digital devices aside. Family rules should apply to all members of the family. If dinner is a no phone time and the dinner table is a no phone zone, then mom and dad should not walk away from the table to take “important calls” in the midst of discussions of what’s new at school.

 

Reading with your children increases their skills, but it also helps you develop their interests. Your children are expected to recognize, understand, and use 1000s of words at an early age. They can toggle back and forth, switch screens, and cut and paste, but can they read and process the information in books and articles? The word hippo does not help them organize thoughts. You can use time gained from turning off the phones to develop your children’s interests in more depth or to discuss current events, family matters, or youth organizations.

 

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that families develop a “family media plan” for young children and teenagers. Children and teenagers need to acquire knowledge through “exposure to new ideas,” but they also need “social contact and support.” You should know who your child talks to online and which websites they visit to restrict inappropriate or potentially harmful contacts. The Academy of Pediatrics recommends developing family boundaries for sharing personal information online and willingness to share time spent online together.

 

 

 

 

Mommy in Labor Called to Breast Feed her Hungry Two-Year-Old Daughter

There is no doubt that a good parent goes above and beyond for a child. This is innate as most parents try to give their children their all, which is something that Kate Neal demonstrated while giving birth to her child. Neal’s eldest was in the room and got a little hungry, and her labor did not stop her from feeding her two-year-old child.

 

Neal was having a home birth, but her midwife was not happy with the progression of her labor. It seems that Neal’s blood pressure raised some concerns, which is when they decided to go to the hospital. Neal had not seen her little girl for some time due to the labor, so she was very happy to see her.

 

It may be possible that her little girl, Rowan, was just hungry or she just missed her mother, but the point is that she asked to be fed. Neal was more than happy to oblige and she had not taken any drugs at this time since it was pretty early on in her labor. Everyone, including the midwife, thought it would be perfectly fine to breastfeed little Rowan.

 

Neal’s little girl did not feed for too long before leaving to play as most kids would. It was not too long after this beautiful moment that her labor began and, in the blink of an eye, Sloane was born.

 

There is no doubt that this mother will not let anything stop her from giving her all to her children. Sloan may be too young to understand just yet, but she is one lucky little girl. Neal did not feel strange about feeding her new born so soon after feeding her other child. This is definitely a story that is going to be told for years. Neal might not have known this, but it seems that breastfeeding before labor may help speed up the labor process, making birth a little easier.

 

Clowns Chasing Children In New Jersey Terrifies Parents

Across the country, we have seen a ridiculous trend of people dressing up like clowns to scare strangers. The stories are endless. Some are harmless, while others are terrifying. Joggers on a run are confronted with a creepy clown on their path. A man spots a clown standing in his yard. These stories are scary, but when you add children into the mix, things get even scarier. It seems as New Jersey parents now have one more thing to worry about. The local media reported at least four clown sightings and explained a possible threat to children.

 

At least two children from central New Jersey have reported being confronted by a person dressed as a clown. And, it gets worse. These clowns were carrying weapons. One of these children’s stories is truly horrifying. Tyler Carpenter explains that he was walking home through an alley when he spotted a person dressed as a clown. The clown begin walking towards him and that’s when he noticed the person was carrying a sword. The child alleges that the clown muttered a threat before chasing him. Fortunately, Carpenter was able to get home safely and call authorities.

 

In the same town of Phillipsburg, another child came forth with their own clown encounter. The child alleges that he and two other children were walking home from school when a group of clowns emerged from the woods and began to chase them,

 

So far, authorities have made no arrests in these cases and do not have any suspects, As clown sightings around the country have began to wind down, parents are hoping this means incidents like this will stop happening, Fortunately, in all of these situations, the children were able to get to safety and were not harmed in any way.

 

 

 

 

Adults and Children Are Helped by Parenting Classes

Raising a child is something that be very stressful. It is a responsibility that you cannot truly prepare for. You will never really know what it is like to raise a child until you have one yourself. However, there is now some help available to parents who are having a more difficult time raising their children than they bargained for. There are various parenting classes that parents can attend. You need to make sure that you attend a parenting class that is designed for people who have children the same age as your son or daughter. For example, the Incredible Years Parenting Class is designed for parents who have children between the ages of two and eight.

 

Parenting classes teach a wide variety of things. They are effective at showing parents various methods of communicating with their children better. They can also show you how to help your child fit in better at school and with other children in the neighborhood. It is essential that your child develop good social skills. Parenting classes can assist you in helping a shy child make friends. These classes can also show you ways to help your child get prepared for their first day at school.

 

Children do not come with an instruction manual when you have them. Therefore, even people who think they are outstanding parents can use a little help occasionally. Parenting classes can give you valuable advice that you can start to implement into your daily routine. They can’t turn a terrible parent into a great parent. However, the knowledge that you will gain from parenting classes will help you to become more attuned to your child’s specific needs. In many cases, children are afraid to talk about certain things with their parents. It is essential that you make your child feel comfortable enough to confide in you.

 

New Jersey Holiday Scams Target Eldery

The air is colder, the holiday lights are everywhere, Christmas deals are in full force, it must e that time of year again. Yes, time to scam the elderly in New Jersey out of their life savings by tricking them to kick up a little extra holiday love. People in New Jersey are being warned to speak to their elderly parents, friends, coworkers, and warn them about the latest holiday scam called the Grandparents Scam. Here is a little about how the scam is pulled off.

 

How the Scam Works

The scam is very clever at the core because it works on tugging at the heart-strings of the elderly. The scammer will call the elderly and pretend to be a grandchild, relying on the person not recognizing the voice on the phone. The person will say they love their grandparent, they are in trouble, and they need the elderly to please keep this a secret from the parents. Since they think they are talking to their favorite grandchild, they try to help out any way they can. Many times the caller will say they are in need of immediate funds to get out of jail, to get home from a foreign country, or to take care of a debt. The caller will try anything to get the elderly to break out that credit card.

 

New Jersey Grandma Scammed

This week an elderly woman in New Jersey was the target of the “grandparents Scam”, and it cost her over $12,000. The scammer convinced the grandmother that they were under arrest and that she needed to go around town to a few stores and load $12,000 on to different iTunes Gift Cards. The grandmother was then instructed to read off those numbers on the cards. The scammer drained the cards quickly before any report could be filed. The Asbury Park Press reported the story in their newspaper and issued a warning for the elderly on how to protect themselves against this popular scam.

 

Today, this scam has gotten so effective that Apple Stores are issuing warning to their customers about how the iTunes cards are now only available to pay for goods, not help relatives make bail. Due to the fact the callers are usually from outside the country, prosecution is all but impossible.