A lot of parents want to raise children who are little Einstein whizzes who do excellently in school. What they forget is that Einstein did not talk until he was four. Even the smartest kid is going to have some oddities that a wise parent has to deal with. It is actually the more intellectually challenged children who usually have the fewest problems.
- Learn from Others
Preparing your children for success requires learning from the parents who are not succeeding, and the ones who did. Also looking at successful people and how they developed is quite helpful. It is easy to think that we know it all until the teenager comes home late with a traffic ticket. If you learn from the Dad of teenagers when you have toddlers, you will not make his mistakes.
- Understand Jungian Psychology
While Freudian psychology focuses on altering the environment to improve behavior, Jungian psychology holds that children have natural talents that should be cultivated in different environments. It is just like plants. If you try to grow a rose bush exactly like you would an almond tree, you are probably going to be frustrated with bad almonds. Understand the difference between the rose bush and the almond tree, and respect them for who they are.
- Learn From Your Own Childhood Mistakes
What did you not like about how your parents treated you? Some children when they become parents respond to relational pain by doing the extreme opposite of what their parents did. This is not always healthy. Identify what your parents did well, and what they did poorly. Copy what they did well, and change what they did poorly. Always be open to adapt for children who are very different than you.
Parenting is not something that all people do well. Get outside help. Former President Obama emphasized the role that a community has in raising children. You do not have to do it alone. However, it is your responsibility to make sure your children have a healthy and safe environment until they are 18.