New Jersey Writer Discusses Changes in Parenting Styles

John Rosemond, a popular columnist for the New Jersey Advocate, recently published a parenting piece about the way that parenting styles have changed from marriage-oriented styles to child-oriented styles since the late 1960s. Rosemond has received a great deal of positive and negative feedback since the publication of this article and decided to publish a continuation of the article to address questions that he frequently received regarding the development of marriage or parent centered parenting styles. In his most recent article on the subject, Rosemond assert that the development of parenting styles which center around children, their feelings, and their personal outlooks on discipline and behavior problems have ultimately led to an onslaught of emotional and moral decay that millennials have experienced since the popularization of this parenting styles. In order to redeem the culture, a shift in the collective parental mindset is required.

 

Rosemond begins his article by discussing the movement from traditional marriage-based child rearing to psychology-based theory which focused more on the appeasement of childhood desires and turned normative discipline involved in child rearing into a negative aspect. Rosemond completely refuted this method of child rearing, stating that children are better adapted to adult hood, find more security and stability in day to day life, and are generally more emotionally stable when they are raised by parents who focus more attention on their spouse’s desires than the desires of their children.

 

Although Rosemond has his critics, study after study supports the journalist in his findings. Studies show that children who grow up in households where they are certain of their parents commitment to marriage feel more secure and emotionally stable than children who grow up in households where their parents are committed to the children but lack significant commitment to their spouses. Children who are raised in households where psychologically themed child rearing is performed often report feeling inadequate and suffering from emotional challenges in early adulthood. These children also struggle with serious relationships because they were raised with an adult who centered the child’s first primary relationship on the child. Because of this, the children often assume that romantic relationships should also center around them.

 

Husband Defends Wife’s Parenting Choices

David Brinkley lives in Yukon, Oklahoma. He posted a photo of his wife co-sleeping with his children. The photo received a lot of praise, but it also received a lot of criticism. Many people stated that David’s wife, Alora, should not be sleeping with the children. However, David decided to defend his wife’s parenting choices.

 

One person commented saying that her husband must hate the fact that his wife co-sleeps with the children. However, David stated that he does not hate anything about the way that his wife parents. He also stated that he will never degrade or disregard his wife. David went on to say that he does not mind squeezing into bed with his children and wife. He went on to say that certain parts of motherhood are short. You have to cherish each moment that you have with your kids.

 

David stated that he will never rob his wife of the time that she spends with their kids. He also advises men to respect their wives as mothers. The American Academy of Pediatrics have advised against co-sleeping because of the risk of turning over and smothering the child. However, if there are not a lot of pillows or blankets on the bed, and the mattress is firm, then this risk is minimized.

 

A woman was recently charged with second-degree murder after she fell asleep on top of her baby. However, this woman was intoxicated while she did this. David’s post quickly went viral after he posted it. It was liked over 500,00 times and shared over 300,000 times. One person commented saying that co-sleeping is the best. Another person thanked David for showing them that that a true partnership can exist. Furthermore, many people stated that David is a great husband and father, and more men should follow his example.

 

Parenting Made Simple

A lot of parents want to raise children who are little Einstein whizzes who do excellently in school. What they forget is that Einstein did not talk until he was four. Even the smartest kid is going to have some oddities that a wise parent has to deal with. It is actually the more intellectually challenged children who usually have the fewest problems.

 

  1. Learn from Others

Preparing your children for success requires learning from the parents who are not succeeding, and the ones who did. Also looking at successful people and how they developed is quite helpful. It is easy to think that we know it all until the teenager comes home late with a traffic ticket. If you learn from the Dad of teenagers when you have toddlers, you will not make his mistakes.

 

  1. Understand Jungian Psychology

While Freudian psychology focuses on altering the environment to improve behavior, Jungian psychology holds that children have natural talents that should be cultivated in different environments. It is just like plants. If you try to grow a rose bush exactly like you would an almond tree, you are probably going to be frustrated with bad almonds. Understand the difference between the rose bush and the almond tree, and respect them for who they are.

 

  1. Learn From Your Own Childhood Mistakes

What did you not like about how your parents treated you? Some children when they become parents respond to relational pain by doing the extreme opposite of what their parents did. This is not always healthy. Identify what your parents did well, and what they did poorly. Copy what they did well, and change what they did poorly. Always be open to adapt for children who are very different than you.

 

Conclusion

Parenting is not something that all people do well. Get outside help. Former President Obama emphasized the role that a community has in raising children. You do not have to do it alone. However, it is your responsibility to make sure your children have a healthy and safe environment until they are 18.

 

Personal Interview with Nine9 CEO and Founder Anthony Toma

In a recent interview published by Ideamesch, the founder and CEO of Nine9 TheUnAgency, Mr. Anthony Toma opened up on several issues regarding both his family and company. The interview covered a wide variety of issues ranging from personal truths like his love for the Detroit lions and his daily family life to corporate questions such as his inspiration for starting of Nine9 and factors that have contributed to the survival and growth of the company.

Nine9 TheUnAgency was founded more than 12 years ago in the year 2013 and the main goal of the company is to provide actors and models with the opportunities, tools and support structures that they need in order to start, develop and advance their various careers. The name of the company is actually inspired by the fact that 99% of actors and models within the entertainment industry do not have access to the facilities and support required to help them establish a successful careers. This is the gap that the company now works to fill on a daily basis although in the interview Mr. Toma revealed that its establishment came about as something of an accident that happened as he was looking for grocery franchises.

When asked about the habits that make him successful as an entrepreneur, Mr. Toma attributed everything to good listening skills. He also gave credit to the Entrepreneurial Operating System designed by Gino Wickman and which the company continuously employs in all his operations. Interestingly, he pointed out failure as one of his strongest pillars for growth. He indicated that he has managed to grown by failing time and time again and was quick to recommend the same for other entrepreneurs hoping for success. His dedication to family was also evident when he outlined his regular morning routine and also when he revealed that he once spent $100 on his son’s tooth as a tooth fairy but still felt it was the best $100 he ever spent.You can also visit their You-Tube page: Click here.

Successful New Jersey Business Women Give Address Regarding Motherhood

Three successful New Jersey businesswomen have recently hosted an event designed to empower mothers involved in high powered careers to embrace the art of change. The event was planned in the latter part of 2016 and went off without a hitch with a reported 3000 women in attendance. The event’s hosts and speakers, MaryAnn LoFrumento, Myriam Alvarez, and Anna Maria Chavez, spent the day encouraging mothers to become fluent in their careers and become actively involved in motherhood. Motherhood, the hosts repeatedly exclaimed, is always to be placed above careers because of the duty to care for the life of another human being.

 

Myriam Alvarez opened the event with a memorable anecdote about her life as a businesswoman and a mother. Alvarez became very successful in the field of journalism and news at an early age. After graduating college, Alvarez landed a prestigious internship with a notable news agency and later became one of the leaders of this agency. Just as she began to advance in her career, Alvarez received the devastating news that her small son had been diagnosed with cancer. Alvarez stated that she immediately realized that her responsibility was the primary care of her son. She quit her job to help his physicians to restore his health. After her son went into remission, Alvarez stated that she expected the joy she had previously found in her work to return when she did. She did not find the same joy, however, and realized that she desired to be with her children on a continuous basis and did not wish to waste precious time with them. Alvarez eventually quit her journalism job with the United Nations and pursued a career in writing and publishing from home. Her advice to the women at the event was to embrace the change that life often hands mothers and to find careers that assist them in the pursuit of life’s most important tasks. Chatham and LoFrumento gave similar accounts of times when they were pushed into a new direction in their careers for the sake of motherhood and announced that they could not be happier in their new careers.

 

 

Ways Parents Can Show Love To Your Children

Parents love their children. However, some people have trouble showing their love to children. Showing love to your children does not have to be difficult. Children need to hear the words “I love you” on a regular basis. There are many ways that you can show this love. You can give them hugs and kisses. You can also hold your child’s hand when you are walking.

 

You can tell your child that you love him or her anytime. You can say “I love you” while you are riding in the car with your child or putting him or her to bed. You can also say “I love you” while your child is helping you with the kitchen. Those three words are powerful.

 

Touch is also important. It helps a child feel loved and appreciated. Even if your child has done something wrong, he or she should still feel loved. For example, you can touch your child’s hand and let him or her know that the behavior is not okay. It is also important to find creative ways to show love to your child. You do not want to overwhelm your child by giving too many kisses or hugs.

 

When children do not receive love, they are more likely to develop mental issues later in life. Showing your child love does not guarantee that they will not develop mental problems. However, being loved is important for one’s mental health.

 

Showing love to your children may come easier if you think about how your life has been enhanced by having a child. While raising a child comes with many challenges, it can also bring you a lot of joy. It is exciting to watch your child grow up and discover new things. Showing love to your children can also make it easier for you to show love to other people in your life.

 

 

 

Why Parents Should Let Their Children Pick Their Own Major

Parents have their child’s best interest at heart when they urge them to pursue a certain major. However, experts say that this is not a good idea. Shannon Reed is a college professor. She is used to seeing kids bummed. Most of these kids are not upset because they do not like their roommate or their grades are not up to par. The kids are unhappy because they are pursuing a major that they do not like.

 

Shannon often asks people why they are pursuing careers like medicine or law if they do not want to. They often say they choose the major that their parents wanted them to. Shannon sees the toll that this takes on students every day. One of her students came into her office crying because he got a C in calculus. He was studying engineering and did not want to tell his parents.

 

This student was not good at math. He did not want to be an engineer. His dream career was a zoologist. It is difficult to be a zoologist. However, it is even harder to succeed in a career that you are not naturally good at.

 

Millennials often get a bad rap. However, most of them are in college because they really want to be. They want to learn more about the world and meet new people. They also want to develop morals and ethics. Additionally, they are willing to work hard, but they often fall short of meeting their parents’ expectations.

 

College is expensive. Many parents either have to pay out of pocket or co-sign on loans. Parents convince their children to pursue a particular career path because they want to make sure that the return on investment will be worth it. However, it is important to remember that a four-year liberal arts college is not really designed to prepare a person for a particular job. That is what trade schools are for.

 

Many students do not know what they want to do with their life. Spending time in college helps them figure that out. Parents should assist their children in finding a viable career path. However, parents should support their children instead of taking their choices away.

 

Family Leaves after a New Born

According to a new report, the number of the new mothers that are opting for the maternity leave remain stagnant even though there has been economic growth. This has gone against the expert’s expectations since the ease on the family finances would enable more mothers to take time off from their jobs after they have given birth to a child. Though more than half of the maternity leave that is taken by the American mothers are not paid the figure has is slow to change. On the other hand, the number of leaves taken by men has increased at a high rate during this time, shows the report by the Center for Human Resource of the Ohio State University.

 

 

According to the report, there is no fluctuation of the number of the mothers taking leaves whether paid or unpaid. For instance, there has been an average of 273,000 women who took maternity leave between 1994 and 2015. This translate to constant maternity leaves per 10,000 birth remained constant. These figures defy logic because the country experienced 66% growth in the economy in the same period. According to Jay Zagorsky a contributor to the report he said that he expected the number of women taking maternity leaves to increase considering the growth of the economy.

 

 

Three states that include New Jersey, Rhode Island as well as California have also passed legislation on maternity leaves. For example, the New Jersey’s family policy that was passed in 2009, enables mothers to take leave for six weeks at reduced pay, that has an annual cap, for the care of the infant or the ailing member of the family. The number of people taking leaves is about 3000 each year, this is according to the report that was released last year.

 

 

The state of New Jersey was the second state after California to enact family leave after a new born. According to officials, this was one of the most vital steps toward investing in the future of the young children as well as their families. After passing of the reforms most parents and other stake holders believed that New Jersey needed to make some minimalist law reforms so that to make the law work efficiently for that parent who is in the low-income bracket.

 

New Jersey’s Baby Boxes to Reduce Motility rate

There is an innovative program that is aimed at increasing the mortality rates and give a chance to the new parent and their babies to get some sleep, this program will be available in New Jersey.

 

 

The company behind the project said that it had established a partnership with the state’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board to supply the sustainable cardboard boxes that contain essential items that are meant for the infants and large enough to function as a bed for an initial couple of months of the baby’s life.

 

 

The New Jersey will become the first U.S state to offer a universal baby box initiative for its citizens. Through the support from the U.S Centers for Disease Control, the state will see that the project succeed. During this year the project is expected to provide 105, 000 baby boxes.

 

 

The main purpose of the program is to reduce the U.S infant motility rate that is at all time high at the rate of 6.5 death for every 1000 birth. The main causes of the high infant motility rate are the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. U.S ranks 23rd in the world and is behind most developed countries. The majority of the infant death that were encountered last year were as a result of sleep complications a characteristic of the SIDS, this was 93% of the death.

 

 

The utilization of boxes has been associated with enhanced health results for the infants and reduction rate of SIDS. This concept has been borrowed from the Finland 80 years ago, where the infant motility rate is at lowest at 1.3 death per 1000 births, the lowest in the world. The health officials in New Jersey are working hard to ensure that the new mothers in the state receive baby boxes. They are also making efforts to give the boxes to the newborns a safer place to sleep and enlighten couples to the betters of parenting techniques. To receive the boxes the new parent will have to complete a three stage process. The boxes will come with diapers, breast pads, and a onesie as well as nipple cream for breastfeeding mothers. The first step will be to register one the company’s website, then they must review the curriculum on the newborn and finally take a short quiz. The parent can choose to pick up the box or request for delivery at home.

Andrew Rolfe & Other Ubuntu Fund Leaders Joining Ranks for More Impactful Change

A recent report from the Financial Times discussed how the founder of the Ubuntu Education Fund, Jacob Lief, is focusing on donors who don’t have restrictions on how the money should be spent at the charity organization. He decided to do this when he saw how the funds were coming in, but people’s lives weren’t changed.

The Ubuntu Education Fund assists vulnerable children within Port Elizabeth’s townships that is located in South Africa’s Eastern Cape province. This organization started in 1999 as a small organization attempting to address one aspect of the educational crisis within South Africa. They have now expanded greatly to assist with health, education, and social welfare issues.

Andrew Rolfe is the chairman on the Board of Directors for the Ubuntu Fund. He has a bachelors degree from Oxford University and a M.B.A. from the Harvard Business School. Andrew Rolfe also holds such positions as CEO and president for other companies. Also, Andrew Rolfe has been the chairman of the Board of Directors for the Ubuntu Fund since March 2007.

Ubuntu Fund go through what they call the “Ubuntu model” which is to work closely with communities and families to produce customized plans for each child. Doing this will better sustain the children and families with health, education, and stability to escape from poverty. The problem has been that many donors want to flex their muscles in how the money should be spent. And as a result, there has been a lesser amount of donors who are giving them funds.

Donations are always needed for charities; however, at least this organization has room to innovate, according to Lief. Nevertheless, some experts specializing in charitable funding stated that there are ways to resolve conflicts with donors if the discussion is brought on early enough. They also said that, in some cases, more donors will be willing to donate if they are offered to participate on the board. There are ways to get additional funding; nevertheless, Jacob Lief, Andrew Rolf, and the entire board are remaining focused on bringing real change to families and their children.