Maggie Kneip, a mother of two and the author of the memoir, “Now Everyone Will Know: The Perfect Husband, His Shattering Secret, My Rediscovered Life,” recently penned a moving article for the New York Times in which she relayed her message of hope in parenting following the death of husband in 1990. The Hoboken, New Jersey native bravely recounted her journey to the alter with her best friend and lover, followed by his diagnoses, loss, and her struggle to raise her children with the light of his memory.
Kneip was a struggling waitress when she met and fell in love with John Andrew. Andrew had a background in theatre and was working as an editor for the Wall Street Journal when the pair married. Kneip recounts in her editorial for the New York Times being unconditionally in love with the man who rescued her from the despair she felt following the end of a major relationship. The two married a little after a year of dating and had a son and daughter within two years of their new marriage. In 1990, John was diagnosed with AIDS and began to succumb to his disease very quickly. Nine short months after his diagnoses he had died, leaving his wife and two very young children to learn to live life without him.
Kneip relayed her fear of having contracted the disease from her husband following his diagnoses. After doctors gave her and her children a clean bill of health, Kneip spent several years attempting to ignore the fact that her husband died of AIDS by avoiding discussions of him with her children and suppressing the memories. After her children graduated from college, Kneip began to discover a great deal of peace by talking about her husband’s circumstances and sharing her love for him with her children. This ultimately turned into the publication of her memoir, a book which remained on the New York Times best seller list for an entire year and helped her children heal. Good things can come from tragedy.