New York Times Investigates Results of Saying “No” to Children

In a recent opinion editorial published by the New York Times, a New Jersey author, Scott Sonenshein, discussed some positive effectives of saying, “no,” to a child. Despite the frequent attempts to vilify negative affirmations from parents to children, several new studies show what common sense already tells most parents. To build character in children, they must be refused on a regular and consistent basis.

Soneshein points out in his article that most parents, throughout the history of the world, have understood children as a group of individuals who are growing and learning. Because of the immature nature of a child, it is important to correct behavior on a consistent basis if the child is to develop into a responsible, productive member of society. Saying no to a child does not have to be a negative experience. By teaching children that all humans are eventually given negative answers in life, parents enforce the idea that challenges can be overcome and that negative answers can actually be positive and beneficial. If a toddler asks for cake for every meal of the day, for instance, the parents answer should explain why this is a poor choice that will ultimately lead to illness in the child. In this case, a negative answer is the loving answer and a positive one would be considered neglectful.

Soneshein also sites a study where children are asked to construct a new object from the ones they are given. In this study, younger children were shown to be more resilient than older ones and more adaptable to negative answers. Soneshein relayed the message that parents should not always be in the habit of purchasing every item children ask for. Not only does this create spoiled and entitled children, but it limits a child’s ability to become resourceful when they lack something they believe they need. We have all heard the stories about how our grandparents didn’t have fancy toys so they got creative with dirt and a box. Much like this example, children learn extremely resourcefulness when they are given negative answers.

Mindfulness in Parents May Cause a More Peaceful Birth Experience, According to New Jersey Physician

New research from New Jersey’s Center for Pregnancy Research has recently revealed that mindfulness among parents may lead to a peaceful and less painful birthing experience. The study was recently mentioned in an article from the New York Times and consisted of a trial of 30 pregnant mothers were monitored before, during, and after their deliveries in an effort to control the anxiety that they felt. The results of the study make researchers hopeful that non-chemical methods of pain relief during childbirth can be on the horizon for expectant moms.

At the beginning of the trial, new parents were asked about their fears regarding childbirth. Most of the new mothers, not surprisingly, stated that they feared the pain of childbirth in a very real way, having not ever experienced it before. Researchers then attempted to educate the expectant mothers in mindfulness to prepare them for childbirth. In the mindfulness education classes, certified midwives would attempt to teach mothers to remain alert and focused on the present moment during labor. Midwives stated, during the course, that the key to mindfulness was that new mothers must learn not to focus on events before or after the most current contraction. They were taught that they could overcome their fears about the labor by implementing a moment by moment thought process.

Following their education in the ways of labor and delivery mindfulness, the confidence levels of the new parents were measured according to a survey. By the end of the research experience, mothers were much more confident in their ability to have a peaceful and controlled labor and delivery. According to one midwife, mindfulness creates opportunities for the expectant mothers to discover new levels of inner strength and resources. The mindfulness studies were shown to significantly impact the pain of childbirth for the mothers who attended the classes. More than half of the mothers believe they had a controlled and peaceful birth because of the preparation they received prior to delivery.

Baby Boxes In New Jersey

New Jersey is leading the way in preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). They are sending new baby home with a sturdy cardboard box fitted with a mattress. These boxes are to be used for the first months for baby’s sleeping. They promote healthy sleeping and should reduce sleep complications. Baby Boxes can be used instead of a basinet for new baby. They are given to mothers who register online and who join the program. Babies will go home with some additional gifts inside, like onesies and baby wipes.


These baby boxes originated in Finland, decades ago, as part of a government program to reduce SIDS and now they have the lowest baby mortality rate. Originally offered to low income families, now they are available to every newborn. About 80% of unexpected infant deaths have been attributed to SIDS and some of those deaths have attributed to babies sleeping environment. For the first few months of their lives babies are at a greater risk especially those whose families cannot afford a basinet. These boxes were designed to provide a safe environment for these little ones.


Jernica Quinones was the first mother in New Jersey to receive the free Baby Box. Dr. Kathie McCans, a pediatric emergency physician at Cooper University Hospital said, “It’s really not about the box: it’s about the education… Honestly, people like free things and the box is the incentive for the education.” According to Dr. McCans, in New Jersey in 2014, 57 of the state’s 61 cases of sudden and unexpected infant deaths involved unsafe sleeping circumstances.


Those stories that previous generations told of babies sleeping in a dresser drawer or an old packaging crate make sense now. For centuries parents everywhere made do with what they had available. Many families co-slept, put babies in hand made box basinets and cradles. Since babies only use a basinet for a short period of time before moving into a crib, baby boxes are cost effective as well. Though New Jersey was the first state to offer these baby boxes, they are now available in Ohio and Alabama. These three states combined plan on giving away 350,000 boxes.


Should Conservative New Jersey Parents Consider Homeschooling

After the development of new California state laws which would force public school students to be indoctrinated with controversial topics as early as the 2nd grade, New Jersey conservatives have been discussing the option of a mass exodus from the public school system into the homeschooling movement. The homeschooling movement has been increasing in popularity since the 1960s when the federal government in the United States began to make its presence heavily known in public schools across the nation. When United States citizens realized that the federal government would always seek to expand its scope of influence, thousands of parents began to partner together to regain their rights to the education of their own children.


New Jersey conservatives have become a minority in the fairly liberal state and are seeking to join the homeschool movement. A representative from the conservative party in New Jersey participated in an interview regarding the increasing popularity of home education in the state and its influence on the New Jersey public school system. This representatives discussed the fact that the liberal government has consistently pressed its secularist, humanist agenda upon all pupils of the public school system as if these worldview were considered to be fact by the American people. New Jersey conservatives would like the state’s government to know that they do not speak on behalf of every family in the state and that the responsibility to educate children rests on those children’s parents, not the state government.


The New Jersey government has been in complete opposition to the growing home education movement in the liberal state for years. The placement of President Donald Trump’s new cabinet, including the nomination of conservative activist Betsy Devos as the United States Secretary of Education, has become a great encouragement to conservatives in New Jersey. Because Betsy Devos is a great proponent of rights of parents to educate their own children in the ways they see fit, New Jersey conservatives have been increasingly choosing home education as a practical alternative to the steady indoctrination of children into a social program which is increasingly hostile to morality and common sense.


New Jersey Offers Free Baby Boxes

The newly developed Baby Box Company in New Jersey recently made headlines due to their launch of a new program where decorated cardboard boxes are delivered to the homes of families with newborn babies. The education themed company uses the boxes to educate the families of newborns on the risks associated with new born sleeping habits. The Baby Box Company has distributed at least 3000 baby boxes to households in the New Jersey area and have plans to distribute thousands more before the end of the summer. A spokesperson from the company stated that she believes the baby box campaign will promote healthy and safe sleeping habits to families of infants.


New Jersey has long been heralded as the state with the least occurrences of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) in the United States. The Baby Box Company’s spokesperson, however, does not believe this statistic is indicative of a thorough change in the state. The spokesperson stated that the New Jersey health care system has made massive strides to prevent SIDS, but there is a massive amount of work which still needs to be done. Low income areas of New Jersey are particularly susceptible to SIDS and it is this community that the Baby Box Company hopes to reach most.


Because low income areas often remain unreached by attempts by the healthcare community to educate new mothers, the Baby Box Company has made an effort to target these areas with baby boxes first. The company is adamant that new mothers are made aware that an infant’s placement in common sleep areas with adults or older siblings is the most common cause of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. The company’s representative stated that the Baby Box Company includes relevant and informative information pamphlets in the decorated cardboard baby boxes. These pamphlets include information about the care of the boxes that discuss issues about decoration and comfort items. The Baby Box company recommends that the box be kept bare to eliminate the risk of infant mortality due to excessive objects being present in the infant’s sleeping environment. Company representatives stated that the feedback from the program has been overwhelmingly positive.


Successful New Jersey Business Women Give Address Regarding Motherhood

Three successful New Jersey businesswomen have recently hosted an event designed to empower mothers involved in high powered careers to embrace the art of change. The event was planned in the latter part of 2016 and went off without a hitch with a reported 3000 women in attendance. The event’s hosts and speakers, MaryAnn LoFrumento, Myriam Alvarez, and Anna Maria Chavez, spent the day encouraging mothers to become fluent in their careers and become actively involved in motherhood. Motherhood, the hosts repeatedly exclaimed, is always to be placed above careers because of the duty to care for the life of another human being.


Myriam Alvarez opened the event with a memorable anecdote about her life as a businesswoman and a mother. Alvarez became very successful in the field of journalism and news at an early age. After graduating college, Alvarez landed a prestigious internship with a notable news agency and later became one of the leaders of this agency. Just as she began to advance in her career, Alvarez received the devastating news that her small son had been diagnosed with cancer. Alvarez stated that she immediately realized that her responsibility was the primary care of her son. She quit her job to help his physicians to restore his health. After her son went into remission, Alvarez stated that she expected the joy she had previously found in her work to return when she did. She did not find the same joy, however, and realized that she desired to be with her children on a continuous basis and did not wish to waste precious time with them. Alvarez eventually quit her journalism job with the United Nations and pursued a career in writing and publishing from home. Her advice to the women at the event was to embrace the change that life often hands mothers and to find careers that assist them in the pursuit of life’s most important tasks. Chatham and LoFrumento gave similar accounts of times when they were pushed into a new direction in their careers for the sake of motherhood and announced that they could not be happier in their new careers.



Why Parents Should Let Their Children Pick Their Own Major

Parents have their child’s best interest at heart when they urge them to pursue a certain major. However, experts say that this is not a good idea. Shannon Reed is a college professor. She is used to seeing kids bummed. Most of these kids are not upset because they do not like their roommate or their grades are not up to par. The kids are unhappy because they are pursuing a major that they do not like.


Shannon often asks people why they are pursuing careers like medicine or law if they do not want to. They often say they choose the major that their parents wanted them to. Shannon sees the toll that this takes on students every day. One of her students came into her office crying because he got a C in calculus. He was studying engineering and did not want to tell his parents.


This student was not good at math. He did not want to be an engineer. His dream career was a zoologist. It is difficult to be a zoologist. However, it is even harder to succeed in a career that you are not naturally good at.


Millennials often get a bad rap. However, most of them are in college because they really want to be. They want to learn more about the world and meet new people. They also want to develop morals and ethics. Additionally, they are willing to work hard, but they often fall short of meeting their parents’ expectations.


College is expensive. Many parents either have to pay out of pocket or co-sign on loans. Parents convince their children to pursue a particular career path because they want to make sure that the return on investment will be worth it. However, it is important to remember that a four-year liberal arts college is not really designed to prepare a person for a particular job. That is what trade schools are for.


Many students do not know what they want to do with their life. Spending time in college helps them figure that out. Parents should assist their children in finding a viable career path. However, parents should support their children instead of taking their choices away.


New Jersey’s Baby Boxes to Reduce Motility rate

There is an innovative program that is aimed at increasing the mortality rates and give a chance to the new parent and their babies to get some sleep, this program will be available in New Jersey.



The company behind the project said that it had established a partnership with the state’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board to supply the sustainable cardboard boxes that contain essential items that are meant for the infants and large enough to function as a bed for an initial couple of months of the baby’s life.



The New Jersey will become the first U.S state to offer a universal baby box initiative for its citizens. Through the support from the U.S Centers for Disease Control, the state will see that the project succeed. During this year the project is expected to provide 105, 000 baby boxes.



The main purpose of the program is to reduce the U.S infant motility rate that is at all time high at the rate of 6.5 death for every 1000 birth. The main causes of the high infant motility rate are the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. U.S ranks 23rd in the world and is behind most developed countries. The majority of the infant death that were encountered last year were as a result of sleep complications a characteristic of the SIDS, this was 93% of the death.



The utilization of boxes has been associated with enhanced health results for the infants and reduction rate of SIDS. This concept has been borrowed from the Finland 80 years ago, where the infant motility rate is at lowest at 1.3 death per 1000 births, the lowest in the world. The health officials in New Jersey are working hard to ensure that the new mothers in the state receive baby boxes. They are also making efforts to give the boxes to the newborns a safer place to sleep and enlighten couples to the betters of parenting techniques. To receive the boxes the new parent will have to complete a three stage process. The boxes will come with diapers, breast pads, and a onesie as well as nipple cream for breastfeeding mothers. The first step will be to register one the company’s website, then they must review the curriculum on the newborn and finally take a short quiz. The parent can choose to pick up the box or request for delivery at home.


County Freeholder in Hot Water Over Comment

While the women’s march was supposed to bring attention to concerns about the new president and his approach to women in general, one New Jersey freeholder turned the attention in a new direction. County Freeholder John Carman is in hot water because his comment about the event really struck a sour note with the people in the march. The county freeholder in hot water over comment concerning those women in the march has now gotten nationwide attention.


Freeholder John Carman posted on his Facebook page the day of the women’s march asking is those ladies would be home in time to cook dinner. While this might have been an odd attempt at humor, considering what the focus of the march in Washington was for, it was not taken lightly. In fact, many in attention who came from New Jersey voiced their concerns that this is exactly the reason they were marching in the first place. These comments have no place in today’s society, especially from elected officials.


Although the march in Washington was to bring attention to the comments of Donald Trump on women, this New Jersey Freeholder only confirmed that comments like this are too easily being dismissed as male banter and not being seen for what they really are. Making an insensitive comment about women getting back home so they could make dinner is similar to how decades ago men who refer to women as being barefoot and pregnant back at home.


When reach for comment, Freeholder John Carman said that he did make the comment but it was taken completely out of context. Although looking back now he says the comment was in bad taste and a bad choice of words, he reiterates it was a joke and he was only trying to make sure that everyone was back home safe in time for dinner. His wife was also reached for comment, and she said that her husband is completely respectful towards women and that this is just his silly sense of humor, she was not offended and thinks others should not be either.


The reason the comment has gotten nationwide coverage is because it was posted as the march in Washington was taking place. One resident of New Jersey held up a box of macaroni and cheese at the press conference and told Carman to cook his own dinner.


Record Numbers of Flu Cases in New Jersey, Impacting State’s Children, Should Alert Parents of the Need to Vac

Old Man Winter is living up to his irascible reputation, so far this year, at least for residents of New Jersey. Besides having to face a recent and nasty deluging Nor’easter, Garden-Staters have been treated to a notably higher than average incidence of flu cases.


Recent statistics from the state’s Department of Health show a total of more than 1500 reported flu-cases. These statistics specifically reflect those cases brought to the attention of the department, beginning in early October, proceeding up to the first week of January. Numbers from the same period of last year were markedly lower, totaling less than 300.


While flu outbreaks are never good, this year’s should be of particular concern to parents, as a high number of the flu-affected appear to be school-age children. A whopping 75% of counties, throughout the state, are noting a higher than usual absentee-rating. In the lead are Cumberland, Salem, Warren and Atlantic Counties. Dr. David Namerow, the founder of Pediatric Care Associates, with branches located throughout the state, affirms the findings, stating; “we’ve had a bunch of kids with flu…fever, chills, headache, cough.” Doctors also concur that the 2017 manifestation of the flu, H3N2, has been making its targets more ill than earlier variants.


The silver lining, amidst the sobering statistics? Doctors continue to advocate vaccinating as the number one way to avoid the flu. In particular, vaccinations are recommended for vulnerable individuals, like children. This particularly applies to children that suffer from chronic illnesses, such as asthma and diabetes. These children are especially in need of the extra protection afforded by vaccinations.


The other important thing to remember is it’s not too late. The CDC, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, provides guidelines for vaccinating children, noting that there are appropriate options for all ages. And, just like their adult counterparts, children should be vaccinated to protect them against the flu every year.


It’s a relatively sure bet that 2017’s New Jersey flu epidemic isn’t leaving just yet. And while Old Man Winter continues to wage his worst, parents should be encouraging their children to wash their hands, cover their mouths when sneezing, or coughing, and most importantly, getting them vaccinated!