Is addiction to Social Media Real?

In the social media world, many people are experience personality changes because of some sort of online phenomenon. Whether the topic is online bullying or people developing online personality complexes, there is no denying that social media has changed us. One thing we can’t deny we all do; we watch our own instagram stories. Why do people do this, when we know what we’ve done today? It is narcissism, or is it insecurities forcing us to check and make sure we actually did look instagram ready? Why are these videos and picture so important anyway, when the images expire after only 24 hours?

As it turns out, using instagram is actually part of a social media addiction trigger. According to Nir Eyal, author of How to Build Habit Forming Products, all addictions come with four main steps. These steps are trigger, action, reward, and investment. The trigger for instagram would be the notifications, a little pop up letting you know that you need to check an app. The action would be actually checking through your notifications, scrolling through friends photos to add comments or hearts, or even reading through the messages in the direct inbox. The reward, is increased friends or followers because of hash tags you’ve used. The investment is knowing that your instagram page is now completely modeled off of your likes and interests.

How does this addiction relate to users checking their own stories after they’ve been posted? It’s similar to a final check of the product. We’ve completed our product, which is the story in this case, and now we’ve come back to make sure that it is up to par with the image we are trying to sell or the facade our instagram is portraying. After all, we can’t very well send out a product without first checking it for quality purposes.

New York Times Investigates Results of Saying “No” to Children

In a recent opinion editorial published by the New York Times, a New Jersey author, Scott Sonenshein, discussed some positive effectives of saying, “no,” to a child. Despite the frequent attempts to vilify negative affirmations from parents to children, several new studies show what common sense already tells most parents. To build character in children, they must be refused on a regular and consistent basis.

Soneshein points out in his article that most parents, throughout the history of the world, have understood children as a group of individuals who are growing and learning. Because of the immature nature of a child, it is important to correct behavior on a consistent basis if the child is to develop into a responsible, productive member of society. Saying no to a child does not have to be a negative experience. By teaching children that all humans are eventually given negative answers in life, parents enforce the idea that challenges can be overcome and that negative answers can actually be positive and beneficial. If a toddler asks for cake for every meal of the day, for instance, the parents answer should explain why this is a poor choice that will ultimately lead to illness in the child. In this case, a negative answer is the loving answer and a positive one would be considered neglectful.

Soneshein also sites a study where children are asked to construct a new object from the ones they are given. In this study, younger children were shown to be more resilient than older ones and more adaptable to negative answers. Soneshein relayed the message that parents should not always be in the habit of purchasing every item children ask for. Not only does this create spoiled and entitled children, but it limits a child’s ability to become resourceful when they lack something they believe they need. We have all heard the stories about how our grandparents didn’t have fancy toys so they got creative with dirt and a box. Much like this example, children learn extremely resourcefulness when they are given negative answers.

New Jersey Birth Haven Hosts Annual Fundraiser

The Birth Haven of Newton, New Jersey will be hosting its annual fundraising event in the latter portion of April. The Birth Haven has had a long history of providing housing, money, and a vast array of resources to pregnant women facing homelessness. The center is a relaxing facility designed to house nine women at any one time, but the center provides resources for thousands of women per year. A representative from the Birth Haven gave a brief oral history of the center’s work and efforts in the Newton community in this interview. The representative also gave a rundown of what community residents can expect should they choose to participate in the Birth Haven’s annual fundraiser. The event is expected to draw more than 500 people and typically raises over 10,000 dollars.

 

The Birth Haven seeks to educate citizens who attend the annual fundraising gala on the support of homeless and low-income expecting mothers. Because of the large turnout typically associated with the fundraising event, the Birth Haven is able to inform the masses about these women and their plans to rebuild their lives. The Birth Haven uses funds from the annual fundraiser to house pregnant, homeless women, but also helps the women to develop the skills necessary to function as ordinary and productive citizens. The center helps women to use skills they already possess to find a job if they are not already employed upon acceptance to the center’s program. The center then takes 60 percent of the residents’ income in an effort to help them to establish enough of a savings account to pay housing needs for months after reintroduction to society. This money can also be used to pay for childcare needs and other expenses that residents will incur when living on their own for the first time in months.

 

The Birth Haven has received a large amount of publicity in the weeks leading up to the annual fundraiser. This event is expected to fully fund the center’s activities for the next year and bring awareness to the difficulty that many women face when they become pregnant unexpectedly.

 

Husband Defends Wife’s Parenting Choices

David Brinkley lives in Yukon, Oklahoma. He posted a photo of his wife co-sleeping with his children. The photo received a lot of praise, but it also received a lot of criticism. Many people stated that David’s wife, Alora, should not be sleeping with the children. However, David decided to defend his wife’s parenting choices.

 

One person commented saying that her husband must hate the fact that his wife co-sleeps with the children. However, David stated that he does not hate anything about the way that his wife parents. He also stated that he will never degrade or disregard his wife. David went on to say that he does not mind squeezing into bed with his children and wife. He went on to say that certain parts of motherhood are short. You have to cherish each moment that you have with your kids.

 

David stated that he will never rob his wife of the time that she spends with their kids. He also advises men to respect their wives as mothers. The American Academy of Pediatrics have advised against co-sleeping because of the risk of turning over and smothering the child. However, if there are not a lot of pillows or blankets on the bed, and the mattress is firm, then this risk is minimized.

 

A woman was recently charged with second-degree murder after she fell asleep on top of her baby. However, this woman was intoxicated while she did this. David’s post quickly went viral after he posted it. It was liked over 500,00 times and shared over 300,000 times. One person commented saying that co-sleeping is the best. Another person thanked David for showing them that that a true partnership can exist. Furthermore, many people stated that David is a great husband and father, and more men should follow his example.

 

Parenting Made Simple

A lot of parents want to raise children who are little Einstein whizzes who do excellently in school. What they forget is that Einstein did not talk until he was four. Even the smartest kid is going to have some oddities that a wise parent has to deal with. It is actually the more intellectually challenged children who usually have the fewest problems.

 

  1. Learn from Others

Preparing your children for success requires learning from the parents who are not succeeding, and the ones who did. Also looking at successful people and how they developed is quite helpful. It is easy to think that we know it all until the teenager comes home late with a traffic ticket. If you learn from the Dad of teenagers when you have toddlers, you will not make his mistakes.

 

  1. Understand Jungian Psychology

While Freudian psychology focuses on altering the environment to improve behavior, Jungian psychology holds that children have natural talents that should be cultivated in different environments. It is just like plants. If you try to grow a rose bush exactly like you would an almond tree, you are probably going to be frustrated with bad almonds. Understand the difference between the rose bush and the almond tree, and respect them for who they are.

 

  1. Learn From Your Own Childhood Mistakes

What did you not like about how your parents treated you? Some children when they become parents respond to relational pain by doing the extreme opposite of what their parents did. This is not always healthy. Identify what your parents did well, and what they did poorly. Copy what they did well, and change what they did poorly. Always be open to adapt for children who are very different than you.

 

Conclusion

Parenting is not something that all people do well. Get outside help. Former President Obama emphasized the role that a community has in raising children. You do not have to do it alone. However, it is your responsibility to make sure your children have a healthy and safe environment until they are 18.

 

New Jersey’s Baby Boxes to Reduce Motility rate

There is an innovative program that is aimed at increasing the mortality rates and give a chance to the new parent and their babies to get some sleep, this program will be available in New Jersey.

 

 

The company behind the project said that it had established a partnership with the state’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board to supply the sustainable cardboard boxes that contain essential items that are meant for the infants and large enough to function as a bed for an initial couple of months of the baby’s life.

 

 

The New Jersey will become the first U.S state to offer a universal baby box initiative for its citizens. Through the support from the U.S Centers for Disease Control, the state will see that the project succeed. During this year the project is expected to provide 105, 000 baby boxes.

 

 

The main purpose of the program is to reduce the U.S infant motility rate that is at all time high at the rate of 6.5 death for every 1000 birth. The main causes of the high infant motility rate are the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. U.S ranks 23rd in the world and is behind most developed countries. The majority of the infant death that were encountered last year were as a result of sleep complications a characteristic of the SIDS, this was 93% of the death.

 

 

The utilization of boxes has been associated with enhanced health results for the infants and reduction rate of SIDS. This concept has been borrowed from the Finland 80 years ago, where the infant motility rate is at lowest at 1.3 death per 1000 births, the lowest in the world. The health officials in New Jersey are working hard to ensure that the new mothers in the state receive baby boxes. They are also making efforts to give the boxes to the newborns a safer place to sleep and enlighten couples to the betters of parenting techniques. To receive the boxes the new parent will have to complete a three stage process. The boxes will come with diapers, breast pads, and a onesie as well as nipple cream for breastfeeding mothers. The first step will be to register one the company’s website, then they must review the curriculum on the newborn and finally take a short quiz. The parent can choose to pick up the box or request for delivery at home.

Limiting Your Child’s Cell Phone Use

Most teenagers display information on Facebook and many appear on multiple social media webpages. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow users to play games online, chat, and share photos and personal information. They can purchase almost anything they want online.

 

Limiting your child’s cell phone use is difficult when you, the parent, model smartphone, landline, social media, and Internet use seven to nine hours each day. Your computers, televisions, and e-readers become family values. Your toddler plays with and talks on the phone before he or she knows the alphabet.

 

The Massachusetts Institute of Technology recommends “screen-free times and places” to “reclaim conversation.” Your children need prosocial bonds, and the ability to express their ideas and communicate their feelings is an important part of communication skills. Common Sense Media stresses the importance putting digital devices aside. Family rules should apply to all members of the family. If dinner is a no phone time and the dinner table is a no phone zone, then mom and dad should not walk away from the table to take “important calls” in the midst of discussions of what’s new at school.

 

Reading with your children increases their skills, but it also helps you develop their interests. Your children are expected to recognize, understand, and use 1000s of words at an early age. They can toggle back and forth, switch screens, and cut and paste, but can they read and process the information in books and articles? The word hippo does not help them organize thoughts. You can use time gained from turning off the phones to develop your children’s interests in more depth or to discuss current events, family matters, or youth organizations.

 

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that families develop a “family media plan” for young children and teenagers. Children and teenagers need to acquire knowledge through “exposure to new ideas,” but they also need “social contact and support.” You should know who your child talks to online and which websites they visit to restrict inappropriate or potentially harmful contacts. The Academy of Pediatrics recommends developing family boundaries for sharing personal information online and willingness to share time spent online together.

 

 

 

 

Family Leaves after a New Born

According to a new report, the number of the new mothers that are opting for the maternity leave remain stagnant even though there has been economic growth. This has gone against the expert’s expectations since the ease on the family finances would enable more mothers to take time off from their jobs after they have given birth to a child. Though more than half of the maternity leave that is taken by the American mothers are not paid the figure has is slow to change. On the other hand, the number of leaves taken by men has increased at a high rate during this time, shows the report by the Center for Human Resource of the Ohio State University.

 

 

According to the report, there is no fluctuation of the number of the mothers taking leaves whether paid or unpaid. For instance, there has been an average of 273,000 women who took maternity leave between 1994 and 2015. This translate to constant maternity leaves per 10,000 birth remained constant. These figures defy logic because the country experienced 66% growth in the economy in the same period. According to Jay Zagorsky a contributor to the report he said that he expected the number of women taking maternity leaves to increase considering the growth of the economy.

 

 

Three states that include New Jersey, Rhode Island as well as California have also passed legislation on maternity leaves. For example, the New Jersey’s family policy that was passed in 2009, enables mothers to take leave for six weeks at reduced pay, that has an annual cap, for the care of the infant or the ailing member of the family. The number of people taking leaves is about 3000 each year, this is according to the report that was released last year.

 

 

The state of New Jersey was the second state after California to enact family leave after a new born. According to officials, this was one of the most vital steps toward investing in the future of the young children as well as their families. After passing of the reforms most parents and other stake holders believed that New Jersey needed to make some minimalist law reforms so that to make the law work efficiently for that parent who is in the low-income bracket.

 

Nintendo Switch Made with Families in Mind

It’s been popping up in newsfeeds and getting quite a bit of attention on tech news sites, and it might be one of the hottest selling electronic items in 2017 that actually gets a family to spend more time together. The Nintendo Switch is finally coming to online and retail stores and fans of the longtime gaming company are eager for its launch March 3.

The Nintendo Switch is designed to be big with busy families, allowing users to play a large number of age-appropriate games anywhere they want, in the home or on the road. You can plug the Switch into your TV and also take the portable, handheld gaming device out the backdoor with a quick flick of the console. Switch allows you to get those kids out of the living room and into the great outdoors without missing a level or expending a virtual life. This game changer is retailing for $299.99.

The Nintendo Switch is loaded with family-friendly games that will get everybody lounging on the couch fired up and playing together. Confirmed games for the March 3 launch include “Dragon Quest Heroes 1 & 2”, “Just Dance 2017,” “The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild,” and “Super Bomberman R” among others. Lego and other well-known game brands are gearing up for later launches on Switch.

This new home gaming system boasts the ability to give gamers more freedom for fun and families more ways to have a blast together on many different levels. Grandparents, kids and cousins of all ages will want to get in on the Switch action.

Tips to deal with child emotional agility

It is not always easy to watch your child when they are unhappy. It doesn’t matter why the child is sad, could be the popping of a balloon or loss of a pet but the main point is to brighten their face again as soon as possible. That is what most parents target to do. But does the immediate relief of the emotional agility help the child in the long run?

Below are three practical procedures a parent, a guardian or even a teacher can practice.

Feel their pain as well

As a parent, you need to fit in her emotional world and that way, you will avoid just pushing away the feeling with mere words. Such expressions like, do not be sad, “you should not be as angry, or it will go away soon, means you don’t understand how the child feels.

Recognize their emotion without concealing

You should be able to differentiate between stressful situations and disappointment or anger in your child’s behavior. It will help you to empathize with the child’s feelings rather than using display rules like most parents do to try to push the negative emotions away. Display rules are expressions such as; boys don’t cry! Or you are a big girl now! You are just telling your child that being emotional is wrong. But in the real sense, you are wrong yourself.

Watch the feeling go.

Help your child to understand that the feeling won’t last forever and it’s okay to be emotionally affected by some life experiences. Tell them you encountered such situations and how you overcame them (it doesn’t have to be real encounter). By this, you will be helping your child to notice that there is no bigger sadness that cannot be dealt with and thus it will come to pass. Assist your child in this phase in such a way that they will be able to handle similar situations in a better way in future. Also, make them know that with a similar experience they might not feel the same way they felt in their previous encounter.

“How kids steer their emotional world is very crucial to lifetime success,” psychologist Susan David said. Thus it is very sensitive how you handle your emotionally troubled child. You can also in your life be anxious, agitated, frustrated or even excited about anything, thus the need to recognize such, in others.

 http://www.nytimes.com/2016/10/04/well/family/teaching-your-child-emotional-agility.html?rref=collection%2Fsectioncollection%2Fwell-family