Husband Defends Wife’s Parenting Choices

David Brinkley lives in Yukon, Oklahoma. He posted a photo of his wife co-sleeping with his children. The photo received a lot of praise, but it also received a lot of criticism. Many people stated that David’s wife, Alora, should not be sleeping with the children. However, David decided to defend his wife’s parenting choices.


One person commented saying that her husband must hate the fact that his wife co-sleeps with the children. However, David stated that he does not hate anything about the way that his wife parents. He also stated that he will never degrade or disregard his wife. David went on to say that he does not mind squeezing into bed with his children and wife. He went on to say that certain parts of motherhood are short. You have to cherish each moment that you have with your kids.


David stated that he will never rob his wife of the time that she spends with their kids. He also advises men to respect their wives as mothers. The American Academy of Pediatrics have advised against co-sleeping because of the risk of turning over and smothering the child. However, if there are not a lot of pillows or blankets on the bed, and the mattress is firm, then this risk is minimized.


A woman was recently charged with second-degree murder after she fell asleep on top of her baby. However, this woman was intoxicated while she did this. David’s post quickly went viral after he posted it. It was liked over 500,00 times and shared over 300,000 times. One person commented saying that co-sleeping is the best. Another person thanked David for showing them that that a true partnership can exist. Furthermore, many people stated that David is a great husband and father, and more men should follow his example.


Parenting Made Simple

A lot of parents want to raise children who are little Einstein whizzes who do excellently in school. What they forget is that Einstein did not talk until he was four. Even the smartest kid is going to have some oddities that a wise parent has to deal with. It is actually the more intellectually challenged children who usually have the fewest problems.


  1. Learn from Others

Preparing your children for success requires learning from the parents who are not succeeding, and the ones who did. Also looking at successful people and how they developed is quite helpful. It is easy to think that we know it all until the teenager comes home late with a traffic ticket. If you learn from the Dad of teenagers when you have toddlers, you will not make his mistakes.


  1. Understand Jungian Psychology

While Freudian psychology focuses on altering the environment to improve behavior, Jungian psychology holds that children have natural talents that should be cultivated in different environments. It is just like plants. If you try to grow a rose bush exactly like you would an almond tree, you are probably going to be frustrated with bad almonds. Understand the difference between the rose bush and the almond tree, and respect them for who they are.


  1. Learn From Your Own Childhood Mistakes

What did you not like about how your parents treated you? Some children when they become parents respond to relational pain by doing the extreme opposite of what their parents did. This is not always healthy. Identify what your parents did well, and what they did poorly. Copy what they did well, and change what they did poorly. Always be open to adapt for children who are very different than you.



Parenting is not something that all people do well. Get outside help. Former President Obama emphasized the role that a community has in raising children. You do not have to do it alone. However, it is your responsibility to make sure your children have a healthy and safe environment until they are 18.


New Jersey’s Baby Boxes to Reduce Motility rate

There is an innovative program that is aimed at increasing the mortality rates and give a chance to the new parent and their babies to get some sleep, this program will be available in New Jersey.



The company behind the project said that it had established a partnership with the state’s Child Fatality and Near Fatality Review Board to supply the sustainable cardboard boxes that contain essential items that are meant for the infants and large enough to function as a bed for an initial couple of months of the baby’s life.



The New Jersey will become the first U.S state to offer a universal baby box initiative for its citizens. Through the support from the U.S Centers for Disease Control, the state will see that the project succeed. During this year the project is expected to provide 105, 000 baby boxes.



The main purpose of the program is to reduce the U.S infant motility rate that is at all time high at the rate of 6.5 death for every 1000 birth. The main causes of the high infant motility rate are the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. U.S ranks 23rd in the world and is behind most developed countries. The majority of the infant death that were encountered last year were as a result of sleep complications a characteristic of the SIDS, this was 93% of the death.



The utilization of boxes has been associated with enhanced health results for the infants and reduction rate of SIDS. This concept has been borrowed from the Finland 80 years ago, where the infant motility rate is at lowest at 1.3 death per 1000 births, the lowest in the world. The health officials in New Jersey are working hard to ensure that the new mothers in the state receive baby boxes. They are also making efforts to give the boxes to the newborns a safer place to sleep and enlighten couples to the betters of parenting techniques. To receive the boxes the new parent will have to complete a three stage process. The boxes will come with diapers, breast pads, and a onesie as well as nipple cream for breastfeeding mothers. The first step will be to register one the company’s website, then they must review the curriculum on the newborn and finally take a short quiz. The parent can choose to pick up the box or request for delivery at home.

Limiting Your Child’s Cell Phone Use

Most teenagers display information on Facebook and many appear on multiple social media webpages. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram allow users to play games online, chat, and share photos and personal information. They can purchase almost anything they want online.


Limiting your child’s cell phone use is difficult when you, the parent, model smartphone, landline, social media, and Internet use seven to nine hours each day. Your computers, televisions, and e-readers become family values. Your toddler plays with and talks on the phone before he or she knows the alphabet.


The Massachusetts Institute of Technology recommends “screen-free times and places” to “reclaim conversation.” Your children need prosocial bonds, and the ability to express their ideas and communicate their feelings is an important part of communication skills. Common Sense Media stresses the importance putting digital devices aside. Family rules should apply to all members of the family. If dinner is a no phone time and the dinner table is a no phone zone, then mom and dad should not walk away from the table to take “important calls” in the midst of discussions of what’s new at school.


Reading with your children increases their skills, but it also helps you develop their interests. Your children are expected to recognize, understand, and use 1000s of words at an early age. They can toggle back and forth, switch screens, and cut and paste, but can they read and process the information in books and articles? The word hippo does not help them organize thoughts. You can use time gained from turning off the phones to develop your children’s interests in more depth or to discuss current events, family matters, or youth organizations.


The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that families develop a “family media plan” for young children and teenagers. Children and teenagers need to acquire knowledge through “exposure to new ideas,” but they also need “social contact and support.” You should know who your child talks to online and which websites they visit to restrict inappropriate or potentially harmful contacts. The Academy of Pediatrics recommends developing family boundaries for sharing personal information online and willingness to share time spent online together.





Family Leaves after a New Born

According to a new report, the number of the new mothers that are opting for the maternity leave remain stagnant even though there has been economic growth. This has gone against the expert’s expectations since the ease on the family finances would enable more mothers to take time off from their jobs after they have given birth to a child. Though more than half of the maternity leave that is taken by the American mothers are not paid the figure has is slow to change. On the other hand, the number of leaves taken by men has increased at a high rate during this time, shows the report by the Center for Human Resource of the Ohio State University.



According to the report, there is no fluctuation of the number of the mothers taking leaves whether paid or unpaid. For instance, there has been an average of 273,000 women who took maternity leave between 1994 and 2015. This translate to constant maternity leaves per 10,000 birth remained constant. These figures defy logic because the country experienced 66% growth in the economy in the same period. According to Jay Zagorsky a contributor to the report he said that he expected the number of women taking maternity leaves to increase considering the growth of the economy.



Three states that include New Jersey, Rhode Island as well as California have also passed legislation on maternity leaves. For example, the New Jersey’s family policy that was passed in 2009, enables mothers to take leave for six weeks at reduced pay, that has an annual cap, for the care of the infant or the ailing member of the family. The number of people taking leaves is about 3000 each year, this is according to the report that was released last year.



The state of New Jersey was the second state after California to enact family leave after a new born. According to officials, this was one of the most vital steps toward investing in the future of the young children as well as their families. After passing of the reforms most parents and other stake holders believed that New Jersey needed to make some minimalist law reforms so that to make the law work efficiently for that parent who is in the low-income bracket.


Nintendo Switch Made with Families in Mind

It’s been popping up in newsfeeds and getting quite a bit of attention on tech news sites, and it might be one of the hottest selling electronic items in 2017 that actually gets a family to spend more time together. The Nintendo Switch is finally coming to online and retail stores and fans of the longtime gaming company are eager for its launch March 3.

The Nintendo Switch is designed to be big with busy families, allowing users to play a large number of age-appropriate games anywhere they want, in the home or on the road. You can plug the Switch into your TV and also take the portable, handheld gaming device out the backdoor with a quick flick of the console. Switch allows you to get those kids out of the living room and into the great outdoors without missing a level or expending a virtual life. This game changer is retailing for $299.99.

The Nintendo Switch is loaded with family-friendly games that will get everybody lounging on the couch fired up and playing together. Confirmed games for the March 3 launch include “Dragon Quest Heroes 1 & 2”, “Just Dance 2017,” “The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild,” and “Super Bomberman R” among others. Lego and other well-known game brands are gearing up for later launches on Switch.

This new home gaming system boasts the ability to give gamers more freedom for fun and families more ways to have a blast together on many different levels. Grandparents, kids and cousins of all ages will want to get in on the Switch action.

Tips to deal with child emotional agility

It is not always easy to watch your child when they are unhappy. It doesn’t matter why the child is sad, could be the popping of a balloon or loss of a pet but the main point is to brighten their face again as soon as possible. That is what most parents target to do. But does the immediate relief of the emotional agility help the child in the long run?

Below are three practical procedures a parent, a guardian or even a teacher can practice.

Feel their pain as well

As a parent, you need to fit in her emotional world and that way, you will avoid just pushing away the feeling with mere words. Such expressions like, do not be sad, “you should not be as angry, or it will go away soon, means you don’t understand how the child feels.

Recognize their emotion without concealing

You should be able to differentiate between stressful situations and disappointment or anger in your child’s behavior. It will help you to empathize with the child’s feelings rather than using display rules like most parents do to try to push the negative emotions away. Display rules are expressions such as; boys don’t cry! Or you are a big girl now! You are just telling your child that being emotional is wrong. But in the real sense, you are wrong yourself.

Watch the feeling go.

Help your child to understand that the feeling won’t last forever and it’s okay to be emotionally affected by some life experiences. Tell them you encountered such situations and how you overcame them (it doesn’t have to be real encounter). By this, you will be helping your child to notice that there is no bigger sadness that cannot be dealt with and thus it will come to pass. Assist your child in this phase in such a way that they will be able to handle similar situations in a better way in future. Also, make them know that with a similar experience they might not feel the same way they felt in their previous encounter.

“How kids steer their emotional world is very crucial to lifetime success,” psychologist Susan David said. Thus it is very sensitive how you handle your emotionally troubled child. You can also in your life be anxious, agitated, frustrated or even excited about anything, thus the need to recognize such, in others.

The Pains of Parenting

The Pains of Parenting

Raising a child comes with some of life’s most wonderful moments. The child’s first words, steps, and laughs will forever be engrained on a parent’s heart. Unfortunately, the task of raising children is not always so lighthearted. There comes a point in which children start seeking independence, and it can be extraordinarily heart-wrenching for any parent to experience.

Young Children

Children and parents have a lifelong bond that only solidifies during those first few years of complete dependence. Most people, however, do not realize that the dependence is a two way street. The parents will become dependent on their children’s dependence, as odd as that may sound. The mom, or dad, will share in their child’s accomplishments, and feel the happiness and sadness of learning new thing. Parents get to experience what life is like as a child, and their innocence is truly heartwarming. Children will often ask their parents if they can help. Sadly, it does not stay that way forever.

There will come a time when a child will start seeking their independence, even at a young age. They will start demanding to choose their own attire for school, as Emily McCombs has experiences with her son. They might not want their hands held, be walked to school, ask for kisses before climbing onto a boss, or be held while falling asleep.


The terrible teenage years. This is when children really start seeking their independence as a ‘person.’ In all honesty, these years might be so ‘terrible’ because that dependence on their parents, and their parent’s dependence on them, is starting to dissolve. It is hard for a parent to let children make their own choices. It is hard for children to make decisions, especially considering that most of their life has been filled with choices made by their parents. This is brand new territory.

Teenagers will not want every choice made for them. They want independence as an adult. The want to feel a sense of self-worth that is separated from their parents. Their choices should be their own, and the consequences should be their own. Parents have to hang on and experience the rollercoaster, let go of their dependence on leading their children through every twist and turn, and realize that the teenager is getting the best resource for life on their own: experience.

Parenting and Vaccinations in New Jersey

As the fall season roles in so does the time for flu vaccinations. This is an especially fun subject for parents as we may not enjoy flu shots ourselves but watching our little ones get them is even worse. This year we cannot turn to the FluMist as it has been taken off the table as an option, as it turns out this less painful option is also less effective.


In New Jersey the law requires that children in child care services receive the influenza vaccination if they are between the ages of 6 months and 59 months old, but highly recommends it for every child over the age of 6 months. If you want to read an article specific to this point this one published by the New York Times makes some good points.


So what is the recommended way for parents to help their children through the vaccination experience?

The number one answer is distraction.


10 Distraction Tactics


  • Have your child blow bubbles
  • Read a story
  • Sing a song together
  • Have your child count backwards from 10
  • Talk about shapes and colors on the wall or in books
  • Bring an Ipad or Tablet with games or movies for the child
  • Bring a sucker for the child to have while they are getting a shot instead of waiting until after
  • For babies, feed them a bottle or breastfeed while the nurse administers the shot
  • Have a toy such as a pinwheel that a child can play with using only one hand
  • Ask them to talk about their favorite things such as animals


These distraction techniques have supportably been shown to be much more effective than trying to reassure a child it will be ok or won’t hurt. Instead try being honest with the child that they are getting a shot and there may be a pinch for a second then it will go away, then proceed to distract. The doctor and nurses should be helpful and honest also, and with a combination of using less painful and quicker techniques the experience should be no problem at all. For those who are anxious about it can request topical numbing agents to help.

American Academy of Pediatrics Fights Back Against Anti-Vaccine Parents

With the presidential election in full swing, New Jersey Governor Chris Christie has been in the spotlight. Recently, he created quite a stir in the New Jersey community with his comments that parents “should have some measure of choice” in the vaccination schedule of their children and, specifically, whether or not their children should get vaccinated at all. In response, the American Academy of Pediatrics has issued a series of sweeping statements, very recently releasing a statement that wholeheartedly supports physician practices “firing” parents from their practice, refusing to allow the children of these parents to be patients at their clinic without agreeing to vaccine their kids.

One practice in East Brunswick had a physician that stated that she’s “glad the Academy has taken a stand in support of Pediatricians who do not accept these patients.” She went on to describe the sentiments that many physicians feel. There are many children in every practice who cannot receive vaccines for medical reasons. Sometimes these patients do not have immune systems that can handle the vaccine or are perhaps allergic to some of the ingredients. Ultimately, these patients depend on everyone else to have their vaccines up to date to protect them from these dangerous yet preventable diseases.

For example, there was recently a Measles outbreak in Disneyland, CA. Measles is an entirely preventable disease if up to date on the vaccine. There are major risks to getting Measles, such as the development of brain damage called Encephalitis. If children are properly vaccinated, this is a major risk that can be avoided.

While Governor Chris Christie thrust New Jersey parenting into the spotlight with his comment on vaccine choice, ultimately the American Academy of Pediatrics disagreed with his stance. While there are certain issues that parents absolutely have autonomy over with regards to the healthcare of their children, vaccines should be a non-issue. Parents in New Jersey should absolutely agree to have their children vaccinated. One of the miracles of modern science, dangerous diseases such as Measles and Polio are completely preventable with vaccines. Vaccines even wiped Smallpox off the face of the Earth. With such a powerful weapon against debilitating illnesses, it would be irresponsible not to vaccinate their children. These practices are simply acting in the best interest of their patients by enforcing common sense on vaccination.