Woman Pens Beautiful Op Ed Piece Regarding Loss and Parenting

Maggie Kneip, a mother of two and the author of the memoir, “Now Everyone Will Know: The Perfect Husband, His Shattering Secret, My Rediscovered Life,” recently penned a moving article for the New York Times in which she relayed her message of hope in parenting following the death of husband in 1990. The Hoboken, New Jersey native bravely recounted her journey to the alter with her best friend and lover, followed by his diagnoses, loss, and her struggle to raise her children with the light of his memory.

 

Kneip was a struggling waitress when she met and fell in love with John Andrew. Andrew had a background in theatre and was working as an editor for the Wall Street Journal when the pair married. Kneip recounts in her editorial for the New York Times being unconditionally in love with the man who rescued her from the despair she felt following the end of a major relationship. The two married a little after a year of dating and had a son and daughter within two years of their new marriage. In 1990, John was diagnosed with AIDS and began to succumb to his disease very quickly. Nine short months after his diagnoses he had died, leaving his wife and two very young children to learn to live life without him.

 

Kneip relayed her fear of having contracted the disease from her husband following his diagnoses. After doctors gave her and her children a clean bill of health, Kneip spent several years attempting to ignore the fact that her husband died of AIDS by avoiding discussions of him with her children and suppressing the memories. After her children graduated from college, Kneip began to discover a great deal of peace by talking about her husband’s circumstances and sharing her love for him with her children. This ultimately turned into the publication of her memoir, a book which remained on the New York Times best seller list for an entire year and helped her children heal. Good things can come from tragedy.

 

Ben Sasse Speaks to New Jersey Audience on Parenting and American Values

Senator Ben Sasse recently gave an address to the New Jersey parenting coalition during which he discussed parenting methods and American values from his most recent book, “The Vanishing American Adult.” During the address, Sasse listed several of the key issues that he believes is negatively contributing to the decline in the values and responsibility of the millennial generation. The senator from Nebraska stated that the current generation of young adults suffered greatly from a lack of structure, exposure to consistent and rigorous work, and requirement to grow up.

 

The senator’s book was recently reviewed by the New York Times. The news outlet’s review of the book was not overwhelmingly positive, but the GOP senator doubtlessly expected nothing less from a liberal news source. Despite less than sparkling press from sources like the Times, Sasse’s published work struck a cord with a large percentage of the American people. For quite some time, Americans have noticed a shift in the priorities and willingness to engage in honest work among the younger generation. This phenomena, according to Ben Sasse, is likely a direct result of inadequate parenting.

 

In his book, Sasse recalls the required labor of his youth. As a boy, Ben Sasse was required to work on a farm and was responsible for certain tasks that were carried out on the farm every day. This required Sasse and his siblings to wake up at dawn every morning, preparing for a full day of hard work. Sasse recounts his experiences picking crops, hauling in heavy tools, and cleaning the barn behind farm animals. Anyone who has ever worked on a farm, even for a single day, can understand the senator’s sentiments regarding hard labor. Although Sasse admits he did not enjoy the labor he was forced to participate in as a youth, he would not trade his experience. For him, his parents’ and grandparents’ commitment to his personal development helped him to become the respectable, hardworking man he is today.

What New Jersey Parents Can Do This Summer to Keep Their Kids Active

For any parent living in New Jersey, you know how frustrating it can be to keep your kids busy when they’re not in school. One of the most unfortunate aspects of summer break is that most kids lose a lot of what they learned during the past school year. This is incredibly problematic for parents who want to see their kids succeed, so it’s crucial that you keep them active and engaged even when they’re not going to class every day. In New Jersey, there are quite a lot of things you and your children can do in the hot summer sun.

 

For one, getting your child involved in a summer camp program is ideal because it helps to keep them active and their brained engaged. There are tons of summer camp programs available in central Jersey, so it should be pretty effortless to find the one that’s right for you and your child. You have two options available to you when it comes to summer camp. Day camps are great for children who still want to come home each and every day. Day camps are similar to a schooling program, since they’ll only be gone for a few hours each day before returning home. You can also choose a regular summer camp program that has your children go to the camp and stay there exclusively for several weeks before getting out.

 

The price you pay for summer camp is totally dependent on what you’re looking for in terms of your child’s education and what you can afford. Certain summer camps are free or low cost for families who are considered low income. It is a good idea for all parents to keep their children as active as possible despite the fact that they are no longer in school. If summer camps aren’t your forte, you might want to consider starting an educational program in the comfort of your own home or spending more time outdoors.

 

Are Children Often Forced to Give Up Childhood in Service to Sports?

The New York Times recently investigated whether or not children often were forced to participate in sports for a large portion of their developing years. In an opinion editorial, David McGlynn, the author of a fatherhood memoir, recounted his feelings about his son’s experience with sports and how one decision made all the difference in his son’s life.

 

McGlynn recounts his own childhood as a part of the sports community. The current professor at a Wisconsin university spent most of his developmental years preparing to be a competitive swimmer. He swam for his high school team as well as a more competitive team during his high school years. He earned a scholarship to college where he remembers being beaten on a regular basis by swimmers who would go on to win Olympic medals. McGlynn recalls his frequent practices, long hours spent traveling for competitions, and sore muscles from all the physical work he put in. He also recalls greatly enjoying every minute of his time spent swimming competitively. Because he enjoyed his experience so much, it was difficult for him to admit to himself that his son, a budding basketball player, seemed to be miserable.

 

After having several discussions with parents who had raised children who participated in competitive sports, McGlynn gave his son the option of quitting the basketball team. He suggested that they spend their weekends and free time participating in activities that they actually enjoyed like kayaking or skiing. After some consideration, McGlynn’s son did quit basketball in favor of more enjoyable activities and his dad noticed that the decision was the right one. No longer was McGlynn’s son angrily contemplating mistakes he made in games or practices, but he was now enjoying life and building character in non-competitive activities. McGlynn went on to publish a memoir encouraging Americans to investigate the true nature of their children’s involvement with sports and if that involvement is adding value or hindrance to the family’s life.

 

Parenting After Divorce: The Bird Nesting Method

In a recently published New York Times article, writer Beth Behrendt discussed the benefits of a relatively new parenting option for divorced families called the bird nesting method. Behrendt and her ex husband have successfully used the nesting method for the past three years to coparent their three children. In the nesting method, the divorced parents each purchase or rent a separate living space from the family’s previously established home. They then choose alternate days or weeks to come and live in the family home with the children while the alternate spouse returns to the separately assigned living space. In this arrangement, children are thought to feel less jostled and displaced by a divorce because they remain in their home with their own belongings.

Behrendt described the living situation as one that appealed to both she and her ex-husband because they desired to place the needs of their boys before their own needs. During a recent speaking event in New Jersey where Behrendt gave a talk about the nesting method, she described her reaction when she first read about the arrangement in a book about simplified divorces. Behrendt stated that she breathed a sigh of relief at the idea that her boys could maintain as much of their original lives as possible throughout the divorce.

Behrends stated that she is frequently asked about her peculiar nesting arrangement by other well meaning parents in PTA groups or school conferences. She advised for parents considering the method to answer a few questions regarding the method. The parents should ask if they can work together to maintain their previously established home, if they can both reasonably find a home to live in during the times when they are not occupying the home, and if they can come to an agreement about the circumstance. If the answer to any of these questions is no, the nesting method may not be suitable. Those open to the nesting method, however, may find it a reasonable solution to their divorce.

New York Times Investigates Results of Saying “No” to Children

In a recent opinion editorial published by the New York Times, a New Jersey author, Scott Sonenshein, discussed some positive effectives of saying, “no,” to a child. Despite the frequent attempts to vilify negative affirmations from parents to children, several new studies show what common sense already tells most parents. To build character in children, they must be refused on a regular and consistent basis.

Soneshein points out in his article that most parents, throughout the history of the world, have understood children as a group of individuals who are growing and learning. Because of the immature nature of a child, it is important to correct behavior on a consistent basis if the child is to develop into a responsible, productive member of society. Saying no to a child does not have to be a negative experience. By teaching children that all humans are eventually given negative answers in life, parents enforce the idea that challenges can be overcome and that negative answers can actually be positive and beneficial. If a toddler asks for cake for every meal of the day, for instance, the parents answer should explain why this is a poor choice that will ultimately lead to illness in the child. In this case, a negative answer is the loving answer and a positive one would be considered neglectful.

Soneshein also sites a study where children are asked to construct a new object from the ones they are given. In this study, younger children were shown to be more resilient than older ones and more adaptable to negative answers. Soneshein relayed the message that parents should not always be in the habit of purchasing every item children ask for. Not only does this create spoiled and entitled children, but it limits a child’s ability to become resourceful when they lack something they believe they need. We have all heard the stories about how our grandparents didn’t have fancy toys so they got creative with dirt and a box. Much like this example, children learn extremely resourcefulness when they are given negative answers.

Mindfulness in Parents May Cause a More Peaceful Birth Experience, According to New Jersey Physician

New research from New Jersey’s Center for Pregnancy Research has recently revealed that mindfulness among parents may lead to a peaceful and less painful birthing experience. The study was recently mentioned in an article from the New York Times and consisted of a trial of 30 pregnant mothers were monitored before, during, and after their deliveries in an effort to control the anxiety that they felt. The results of the study make researchers hopeful that non-chemical methods of pain relief during childbirth can be on the horizon for expectant moms.

At the beginning of the trial, new parents were asked about their fears regarding childbirth. Most of the new mothers, not surprisingly, stated that they feared the pain of childbirth in a very real way, having not ever experienced it before. Researchers then attempted to educate the expectant mothers in mindfulness to prepare them for childbirth. In the mindfulness education classes, certified midwives would attempt to teach mothers to remain alert and focused on the present moment during labor. Midwives stated, during the course, that the key to mindfulness was that new mothers must learn not to focus on events before or after the most current contraction. They were taught that they could overcome their fears about the labor by implementing a moment by moment thought process.

Following their education in the ways of labor and delivery mindfulness, the confidence levels of the new parents were measured according to a survey. By the end of the research experience, mothers were much more confident in their ability to have a peaceful and controlled labor and delivery. According to one midwife, mindfulness creates opportunities for the expectant mothers to discover new levels of inner strength and resources. The mindfulness studies were shown to significantly impact the pain of childbirth for the mothers who attended the classes. More than half of the mothers believe they had a controlled and peaceful birth because of the preparation they received prior to delivery.

It’s Time for Central New Jersey Parents to Disconnect From Technology

It seems that adults are always complaining that young people are way to involved in their mobile devices, but it is time for us to take a look in the mirror. With a recent survey conducted with parents throughout Central New Jersey uncovering that up to seven non-work hours a day are spent in front of a computer screen, many are crying out that enough is enough. It seems that the days of families spending quality time with once another are slowly passing us by.

It is no secret that children need their parents. Not only are adults to be a proper role model, they are to help young people develop into the type of productive members of society that we desperately need. It is little wonder that children and teenagers today are spending so much time in front of their own tablets and smart phones. If that is the only activity that they see their parents doing on a regular basis, then that is what they will do as well. Parenting is a full time job. Many in Central New Jersey are concerned that we have lost site of this reality.

Alternatives do Exist

There are some habits that you can begin to enforce that will help in this area. Begin enforcing no technology zones or times within your daily schedule. This can include daily meals together, game nights, and any other structured activity where the entire family is gathered around. Simply insist that phones and tablets are not welcome, and that goes for adults as well. If you think that you need your mobile device in the event of an emergency, just remember that there was a day not long very ago when such technology was not invented yet. People got by just fine, and so will you.

When parents begin to show their kids that time is valuable, families are strengthened. It is this type of bond that people in Central New Jersey are hoping to return to once again. Begin by doing your part today and setting a positive example.

New Jersey Parents In Need of Single Parenting Advice

A drastic increase in the amount of single-parent families in New Jersey has created a new demand for single-parent resources and literature. The New York times recently reported that the number of single parent homes has doubled in the last decade and that New Jersey now holds a single parent population that is expected to surpass the number two-parent house holds within the next twenty years. With this change in the way that families operating, the New Jersey Parent Alliance released an informative packet that serves to help single parent families to balance family time with work obligations.

Time Management
Time management skills are necessary in every family, but is obligatory for single parent households. The balancing of time between work, family time, extra curricular activities, and other pastimes that the family engages in can be extraordinarily difficult for single parents. The New Jersey Parenting Association recommends that single parents work to eliminate all activities that are not essential. Multiple children, for instance, do not need to become involved in several extra curricular activities. For the single parent, it is important to set realistic expectations for every planned activity.

Dealing With Financial Constraints
Financial constraints are one of the most severe issues plaguing single parent households. Single parents must learn to make one income work for an entire family. Budgeting classes that teach individuals how to create budgets and create financial constraints to help reduce the burden on these families. Financial assistance programs may also be available to single parents who fall below average income levels for New Jersey.

Avoiding Poverty
Single parent families represent an estimated 80 percent of the impoverished community in New Jersey and in the rest of the nation. Fatherlessness causes poverty in almost every family environment. To combat the possibility of poverty, single parent families should seek to obtain educational credentials that enhance their desirability in the job market. Higher education has never been more attainable than it currently is and single parents benefit greatly from higher degrees.

Real Estate in New Jersey

There are a lot of places around the country where the real estate market is appreciating rapidly. New Jersey is leading the pack in this area. Over the years, the number of people who have moved to New Jersey has increased dramatically. This is an area that a lot of people are excited about. Now is the time to try and figure out a plan for the future for people who are investing in real estate in the area.

 

 

Financing

 

Many people who invest in real estate have to finance the property they are buying. Financing is getting easier than in previous years, and some people are concerned that this could cause a bubble to form in the market. However, many seasoned investors believe that the market still has many years to continue to grow before that happens. This is always something that investors need to consider before buying a property that is leveraged.

 

 

Real Estate Investing

 

One of the most important things that anyone can do for their finances is to invest for the future. Investing in real estate has a lot of advantages to other forms of investing. Not only can you earn monthly cash flow by renting out properties, but you can also grow your net worth by experiencing equity appreciation over time. New Jersey investors have experienced a lot of equity growth through real estate price appreciation. Investors are making money, and they are out looking for new properties to buy. This is only going to continue to drive up prices in many areas.

 

 

Future Changes

 

Many real estate experts believe that New Jersey is going to continue to see an increase in real estate prices in the future. With all of the changes that are going on in the economy, more people than ever are looking to buy their first home. This is causing a huge shortage in the supply of homes, and this shortage is only going to continue to increase prices in the future.