PARENTING & EMPTY NESTERS: YOU KNOW

According to an online web site news source located on this link below, parenting, it seems, it certainly not what it used to be. Financially, emotionally, socially, and spiritually….things have truly changed. In particular, they have changed much for those empty nester parents and their offspring. Allow me to quote a wonderful slice of this online news source(http://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/18/fashion/empty-nest-parents-children-college.html?_r=0, pg. 1).

“The etiquette of the empty nest can bedevil even the most sophisticated parent. Take, for instance, the actress Alfre Woodard. Ms. Woodard said that when her younger child (her son, Duncan) went to college in 2012, her depression caught her in a bind.”

 

Now with that said, it does seem that empty nesters do indeed rage against an eternal or eternally-seeming struggle which at times is more difficult to bear. As such, things can be more difficult and more intolerable to bear as a whole….for the sole parent, the individual who has left the nest or is leaving the nest, and/or the family and friends as a whole. Hard times do truly take their hard toll here, as is mentioned well throughout the article piece.

 

Another thing to note is the very fact that there are many unfelt and unheard, plus unseen tears…which are bourne by the parents involved. They are carried and often not released or talked about with others, which may sometimes carry a bit of a heavier load on the present family involved as well. A sense of control is maximized as the reins of control are tightened a bit towards the other siblings, of which they may see and feel as unfair…..not truly understanding the feelings or emotional connections which parents go through for their children of any and all ages. Once a son or daughter, always a son or daughter…..and nothing can change that: not time or travel or experience or anything else.

 

A parent’s job—-at least a good, loving parent’s job—–is to always love and support their children….and feel for them if they are ever hurt, in need, or moving out of the nest. This can be a more painful experience than some will ever know or fully come to grasp within their own life time. Yet it is absolutely and one hundred percent there and present.