The Pains of Parenting

The Pains of Parenting

Raising a child comes with some of life’s most wonderful moments. The child’s first words, steps, and laughs will forever be engrained on a parent’s heart. Unfortunately, the task of raising children is not always so lighthearted. There comes a point in which children start seeking independence, and it can be extraordinarily heart-wrenching for any parent to experience.

Young Children

Children and parents have a lifelong bond that only solidifies during those first few years of complete dependence. Most people, however, do not realize that the dependence is a two way street. The parents will become dependent on their children’s dependence, as odd as that may sound. The mom, or dad, will share in their child’s accomplishments, and feel the happiness and sadness of learning new thing. Parents get to experience what life is like as a child, and their innocence is truly heartwarming. Children will often ask their parents if they can help. Sadly, it does not stay that way forever.

There will come a time when a child will start seeking their independence, even at a young age. They will start demanding to choose their own attire for school, as Emily McCombs has experiences with her son. They might not want their hands held, be walked to school, ask for kisses before climbing onto a boss, or be held while falling asleep.

Adolescence

The terrible teenage years. This is when children really start seeking their independence as a ‘person.’ In all honesty, these years might be so ‘terrible’ because that dependence on their parents, and their parent’s dependence on them, is starting to dissolve. It is hard for a parent to let children make their own choices. It is hard for children to make decisions, especially considering that most of their life has been filled with choices made by their parents. This is brand new territory.

Teenagers will not want every choice made for them. They want independence as an adult. The want to feel a sense of self-worth that is separated from their parents. Their choices should be their own, and the consequences should be their own. Parents have to hang on and experience the rollercoaster, let go of their dependence on leading their children through every twist and turn, and realize that the teenager is getting the best resource for life on their own: experience.